Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there
I'm mid 40's and have a recently suspected diagnosis of Autism. Well I did have difficulties listening and concentrating at school and I couldn't enjoy creative subjects like art and English Literature as much as I wanted to and now I know why. I've also had difficulty forming friendships and have had too many abusive relationships! I tend to obsess over things or people that have upset me. I am hypersensitive too to smells, taste, sound and touch...and to what I hear from others... Does this sound like I may have Autism and ADHD? And do you have the same or similar issues?
Hi Sara, I came onto this site because I have a son that sounds just like you. He is now 35 and it is tearing our family apart, his obsession with what people have done in the past to stop him from progressing in his life. The truth is that these are things that just happen in normal life but he obsesses over them and is so repetitive. He has real aggressive outbursts too. I am not sure if that is manipulative behavior or part of the autism. He refuses to get diagnosed.
What is your story, what made you seek a diagnosis?
I just wanted to say that I hear you; this sounds really tough on you as well as your son. It could be autism, or it could be something else entirely. I'm guessing that he does not wish to get help for his aggressive outbursts?I have no answers buy you both have my sympathy.
what about lack of support and no willingness to understand from family members
if he has no one to open up because everone just pressures him to fix himself that it's unacceptable, no wonder he is stuck
autism isn't the cause of his problems
it's misunderstandings and miscommunication, and refusal to meet middle ground
Hiya,
A diagnosis is totally his choice and he shouldn't feel pressured into it. does he have any other traits? Sounds like he can't get past the people that have hurt him, feeling hurt and betrayed is awful, has he tried counselling to discuss this.
Also, personally a diagnosis has only helped me to understand myself, i have recieved no support from any professionals so a diagnosis may not be much help
Alisha xx