Is divorce a better option

Bit Sergeant major like presentation, but hell yeah!

That's what being a man is all about, getting a grip and taking charge of your situation then extending it to your family situation.

For a start, I bet you are the major "spider wrangler" in your household. Build on that.

Add a bit of DIY skills and suddenly they are lost without you!

talk to your wife about this. also maybe a professional like a GP.

I dont understand money...i cant budget...wife works....im pretty micj housebound..can hardly think...nervous constantly....never worked....can hardly speak to people....im a damn mess amd not a good marriage material....sje did most things and im 40 with the attitude of a kid...i cant function as an equal and i hate it. Evertime i even try my thoughts are full of attacking me for lazyness and not doing what world does. Its destroyed me and she deserves more from a more functional person

The suicide posts are almost entirely autistic people looking for help and advice.

It is a big problem and talk is helpful. Your response in this way is the first I have seen of someone being aggressive to desperate people on here.

All of us know about the standard services, who are usually kind, but there is no evidence they save lives. 

Keep talking??

Dodging life as someone else takes the mantle. She doesnt complain no but its all been on her. Its like i fear everything...getting it wrong. On one hand ive known anxiety all my life..on the other done nothing yet people love me

sounds like you're being harder on your self than everyone around you. has she ever complained about you or your lack of activity / drive?

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Its more that i cant accept whats being said. Everyone is very adamant im forcing myself to anxiety over doing things. The more i do the more i feel avoidant. I keep taking steps but i constantly feel a pull to do little. Its confusing and also makes me very rigid in not wanting much...its lile 2 minds fighting. I feel like Everything i do leads me closer to a pace i wont handle or understand how to. I do agree with blue please remove mt posts regarding suicide

I understand the rules, I also understand their is a time and a place to use negative language. Being supportive isn't telling people what they wish to here but tell them what they need to hear in order for them to realise, recognise and understand their behavior so they can do something about it. 

Liz as your a moderator of this website i would like you to reply to this response. What is the National Autism Society's rules for moderators for allowing open confessions of self harm and suicide on this community page because a lot of it is being ignored and missed by the moderators.

The concerning factor here is a lot of teenagers and young adults are being exposed to posts of open confessions of self harm and suicide and often it's the same individuals using the same accounts or alternative accounts with different usernames. It may not be on this exact post but affecting the whole community page.

Yours Grateful, 

Blue.

So what if you’re childish. We’re you childish when she married you? She loved you then. What do you think has changed?

you say equal maybe she doesn’t see it that way. Maybe she sees things of value in you you bring she doesn’t see in herself?

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Kind regards 

Liz Mod

Felt it so long its normal...but recently been seeing some improvement but the veil of anxiety or life change is hammering me. Hard as it is to accept i have to keep going

Sorry to hear you are feeling overwhelmed and low. And I’m sorry that you’ve had such a negative response here, which certainly isn’t going to help reassure you. Self esteem is a problem that many Autistic people experience. 
If all these feelings have been lingering a while, and you can’t see a way forward, then it might be best to have a a chat with your GP. Maybe you need counselling, maybe you need medication. Maybe you need to give yourself a bit of love and self care for a change. Whatever it is, trust that you won’t feel like this forever. Good luck.

Your being pathetic, I have no sympathy to give you.You are behaving like a grown man child.

You are perfectly capable of sustaining a family, yours is just going to be different from the typical and that's not a bad thing. Most children grow up healthy and happy with the bare minimum.

most children who come from broken homes tend to grow up angry and maladjusted. So stop wasting your time and energy looking for sympathy on this forum and make some small changes. making the effort no matter how slowly it shows and it sustainable.

If your anxious all the time, Go and make a doctors appointment, doesn't matter if you have to wait awhile for the appointment just intaite the help.     

Marriage is for better or worse and you need help now. Don't beat yourself up