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Is divorce a better option

Weazelbeast

The past year has bee  a nightmare for my family. Constant anxiety..struggling....talking about my peoblwm over and over. Alot of blame on myself for being less than ideal..feeling like a grown manchild constanyl on edge with reaponaibility when im only doong bare minimum as it is.

I dont see how we can ever be a functional family with my list of deficits...codependancy and wanting sameness over moving up in world.

I feel she would be better moving on from me. I cant seem to get my head around myself and when i realise im really nor thinking like an adult i fear she will never jabe an equal. 

Life has fallen apart and i want so little as an adult i seem.jaded by life itself...just following. With all these issues should i just accept what might be inevitable...that my needs will be too mixh for a nt to hold as baggage...least with someone else they may move towards goals rather than my anxiety laden existance.

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  • Hi, 

    Thank you for contributing to the conversation. 

    To help us keep the online community a safe and supportive space, this is just a reminder of our rule 4, 'Be nice to one another and enjoy chatting with others. We encourage conversation and respectful debate; please be aware that individuals may give opinions which are not shared by other members. Insulting posts or comments making personal jibes will not be tolerated.'

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  • in reply to Liz Mod

    I understand the rules, I also understand their is a time and a place to use negative language. Being supportive isn't telling people what they wish to here but tell them what they need to hear in order for them to realise, recognise and understand their behavior so they can do something about it. 

    Liz as your a moderator of this website i would like you to reply to this response. What is the National Autism Society's rules for moderators for allowing open confessions of self harm and suicide on this community page because a lot of it is being ignored and missed by the moderators.

    The concerning factor here is a lot of teenagers and young adults are being exposed to posts of open confessions of self harm and suicide and often it's the same individuals using the same accounts or alternative accounts with different usernames. It may not be on this exact post but affecting the whole community page.

    Yours Grateful, 

    Blue.

  • in reply to Blue

    We want our Online Community to be a safe and open space for people to support one another around a range of issues, including mental health and wellbeing, as  we feel it’s important that autistic people have an outlet where they can be understood, listened to and share how they are feeling.  While we encourage open and frank conversations, we remove any content which we consider to be graphic or otherwise inappropriate.

     

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  • in reply to Blue

    We want our Online Community to be a safe and open space for people to support one another around a range of issues, including mental health and wellbeing, as  we feel it’s important that autistic people have an outlet where they can be understood, listened to and share how they are feeling.  While we encourage open and frank conversations, we remove any content which we consider to be graphic or otherwise inappropriate.

     

    Our moderators work hard to closely monitor conversations and we'd strongly encourage you to raise any concerns you have about a post or user to us privately, so that our Community Manager can look into this: communitymanager@nas.org.uk.

     

    If a moderator has not responded to a specific post, it does not necessarily mean that they are not aware of the situation or have not taken action. There can be a number of reasons for this. For instance, in certain circumstances, the moderation team may need to contact a member directly and follow our safeguarding policy and process. If this happens, it will not always be publicly posted on the community thread as we need to protect the member's privacy.

     

    I hope this provides some clarity. And please do make sure that you email us with any concerns you have: communitymanager@nas.org.uk

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