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Birthdays

Catlover
over 1 year ago

Does anyone else hate birthdays?

I had one yesterday. I detested everything about it. They make me feel anxious, and the lead up to it is horrible. I can’t express how they make me feel, but I fought back a meltdown in the morning, as I had work. It was a real struggle and I still feel bad today.

I don’t like people saying happy birthday, so tried to keep my head down. I don’t understand the point of birthdays, but I still feel conflicted about what I should be doing on the day. Society expected that you do certain things to celebrate. I don’t want to celebrate. But if I don’t do something to mark the occasion, I feel left out and dejected. I don’t know why.

I still get a little cake, and I do like receiving cards. If I don’t get one, it does upset me, because it’s not hard to do, and doesn’t take any effort.

Gifts aren’t important to me, and I get stressed when I’m asked what I’d like (because I’m hard to buy for). I don’t want anyone wasting money on me,  and to be honest, at this age I don’t need anything. 
As far as I can recall, I’ve been like this since a young child.  I’m 49 by the way.

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  • over 1 year ago

    Thank god, there is someone else who feels exactly the same about birthdays. I’m the same I like a card but a present isn’t important.( Colin the caterpillar cake compulsory). When I hit 50 people started to assume that I would like a party, I would rather stick pins in my eyes!  I don’t post my birthday on social media and don’t need messages. I had a conversation with my mother a few weeks ago on birthdays, she just couldn’t see my point of view and said that I was weird. Out of 365 days of the year, one of these days obviously will be the day you were born, what’s to celebrate? The other thing I really struggle with is buying a present for someone else. One very memorable birthday was when a surprise birthday was arranged at a restaurant, I managed a full meltdown in front of everyone, strange thing was my father was also going into one.

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  • over 1 year ago

    Thank god, there is someone else who feels exactly the same about birthdays. I’m the same I like a card but a present isn’t important.( Colin the caterpillar cake compulsory). When I hit 50 people started to assume that I would like a party, I would rather stick pins in my eyes!  I don’t post my birthday on social media and don’t need messages. I had a conversation with my mother a few weeks ago on birthdays, she just couldn’t see my point of view and said that I was weird. Out of 365 days of the year, one of these days obviously will be the day you were born, what’s to celebrate? The other thing I really struggle with is buying a present for someone else. One very memorable birthday was when a surprise birthday was arranged at a restaurant, I managed a full meltdown in front of everyone, strange thing was my father was also going into one.

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