Wish I died as a child

Scared about losing a home, or being homeless, normal, would be a lot more worrying if you weren't the slightest bit bothered about that.

What you need to do though is use that fear to try and keep your house, and home. "I am going to do all I can to keep my home".  Try all options and hopefully you can.

If it is just not possible for you to keep your home, that is really unfortunate and difficult and I've been there, but its something you need to face if it happens.

Focus on the next step.

Hi Steve

have you used this service, [link removed] they can get a lot of your debt wiped away, Steve people here care and have gone through similar times. try reaching out to the samaritans and those who are near you, tell them how you really feel. Good luck and take care,

Nat

[Mod note: I have removed a link to a debt advice service as possibly spam. The government operates a free national debt advice service that can be found here - https://www.gov.uk/national-debtline - and Citizens Advice offers help with debt here: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/debt-and-money/help-with-debt/. We would recommend using these services instead - Ross - mod]

Hi Steve,

You have a community here who care what happens to you. You’re going through a horrible time, but you don’t have to go through it alone. It’s brave of you to keep reaching out to the forum, and we will always be here to offer our solidarity and support. I messaged you a while ago but don’t know if it landed. You can always get in touch if you need a chat.

I wonder if you’ve ever spoken to the Samaritans or to the Shout text helpline? It could be a good next step if going to the GP is difficult.

Keep going, you can get through this time 

I'm scared I'm gonna lose the house

I'm frightened about everything now I'm on my own

No you don't, you are in a dark place right now.

Everyone on here cares what happens to you. 

I know you don't like speaking to your GP, but it is for the best that you seek some help

Understandable, but what you fear may not happen if you reach for help and support, and even if it did that is something to face and get support with.

Right now, the best thing is talk to your GP and try NAS or mental health charities.  Your GP should be able to sort out a social worker or support worker to help with your situation.

Dig deep, have courage, and fears fade.

I so agree.

Of course you are, fear disables us, makes us child like,believe me I understand however we can't look for a super hero to save us. 

• When we lose the crutches in our lives we break down but we need to grow and start being the crutches now. Big pants on...small goals, taking each day as it comes, crying and being an emotional mess too ...its all allowed and it doesn't make you or I a lesser person. Growing pains.

I agree. It is important to reach for help yourself, and find different places for that, so that you can learn to cope.

Being a victim of things in life does mean you tend to develop a victim mentality, but you can change to a better one and that can really help you become more confident and secure in yourself.

Life is difficult, but falling apart doesn't improve that - actions and solutions do.

I'm just scared

I often go into these spirals of thought and it's true, nobody seems to care but that's probably because they are sitting feeling sorry for themselves too. It's a catch 22. We need to start caring aut our selves, looking for other people to look after us is a victims way. I am personally fed up with feeling the victim...I'm me and I will look after me. Be you and be proud! Wallow as much as you need, cry as much as you need but then realise you are in control of yourself ....make yourself happy. Seek the things you like in life. ....don't worry I am trying to take my own advice too. 

People here care, it can very difficult as I know well and others will, you need to talk to someone either at mental health charities, or local mental health team, and I suggest you go to your GP and talk to them, try the NAS helpline.  As for your home and bills, debts, benefits then talk to Citizens Advice - they are great and really helped me when I was struggling.

You can get through this difficult period, you just need the right support.  Keep talking here, it all helps.

Please do not think like this, there is someone that cares about you! Do you have any mental health needs that are not being met? Could you speak to someone about how you are feeling?

Nobody cares about me