Dating site

I probably get the impression that there are genuine people and fake people on dating sites. I don't think dating companies police the websites enough. I know it can be difficult to sort everything out but they do need to have more online presence and sort it out. 

I know there is always someone put there for me but I have to keep trying and eventually the right woman will come for me. I always believe in honesty and the more honest someone is. The more they trust you.

Internet dating actually stopped me dying a virgin!I just never got the whole dating thing, in my teens even had girls ask me out but I refused as I had no idea. Anway around 2000 I was a early internet adopter and there were some dating websites around. They tended to be much more serious and deep back then as there were no smartphones and broadband was new. I found online dating a god send! I could think about things before talking to somebody, I had information about them, I knew the basics. Back then there was no instant responce due to no smart phones. Anyway I dated 3 girls, one for 2 years other two for 6 months. Then I was single for 6 months and met my wife on there, now together for 17 years. 

From what I have seen of modern dating apps they frightern me, it seems to be all about looks and nothing else. Maybe try some of the sites that are more serious, assuming there are some around still?

When i tried internet dating i was put off by women who hadn't bothered to write a decent profile. I know it's difficult knowing what to write, but you just need to put some thought into it. I wrote on mine that i was actor, 'cos i thought that would impress.I trod the boards, as us actors say.

If any of them came back and asked, i told them  in my last role i was a farmer, well not exactly a farmer, i had sheep to look after.  I was a shepherd in the nativity when i was five.

I have looked online for a few dating sites for NDs and there are a few out there! I think this might be a better place to look than the run of the mill dating sites online. You can find them via a search engine.

I feel like its a struggle for me and I have high functioning Asperger's. I can talk to people and get to know people face to face. Its online that's the real struggle because you don't know the person and everyone is a little on edge. For me I need to be set up with someone face to face because I will find it easier to talk to someone and also it puts everyone at ease. I tried a dating website (Disability Match) and it hasn't worked well because the Women didn't reply back to you or they might find it more difficult to talk to you. Also where they live is another problem as well.

I hope I can find someone and I'm trying my best. I might consider Bumble, eHarmony or Match.com.

I invest as much time in it as I feel like, or not.  My openers tend to be simple, hello, hows your day going, or maybe mention something in their profile.  Ice breaker level. 

I have some rules as well.  If you have an empty profile, whats to say you won't show the same level of enthusiasm for a relationship?  If you have one or zero photos, you probably have self image issues.  If you are always single in the photos are you billy no mates or adverse to playing with others.  If you have too many photos are you too self absorbed/vane.  Any of those I would Pass on.  Too much make up is another one I can't stand.  I don't want a princess or supermodel, because it would be to much hard work.  I just want someone ND but relatively normal ND.  A fellow Aspy would be cool.  High functioning and verbal.

My suggestion is make a nice profile.  2-3 paragraphs, 3-4 photos, if they have questions for helping with matches, answer about 20-30 of them, don't link any social media accounts to it and then wait for a week.  Places like POF delete profiles if you are too active, too quickly.  Cupid takes time to generate good matches.  I don't use the others, so YMMV.

My wife and I met on a dating website. One of the questions on my profile was asking about the last book I read and she told me a while later that one of the reasons I made the cut was because unlike most I'd actually read a book recently. 

My point is that there's someone out there for everyone, some of us just need to look a bit harder. We're not like many of the others on those apps or sites - we are much more specific about what we want and need, and that rules a lot of potential partners out. We're also a little different to what many people are looking for in us and that rules some more out. I've never heard of the sites you mentioned but I'd used a couple of the free/cheap ones without any success but when I paid for one of the more well known ones I did meet my wife.

I'll quote Daniel Johnston, partly because it's relevant, partly 'cause it's a beautiful song (True love will find you in the end):

You shouldn’t judge. I reckon at least 75% of the people on dating apps are introverted in some way and find it hard to mix and meet people. The rest are just looking for something casual, which is fine too.

I would swipe on anyone you like the look of. You can’t tell what they’re like until you start messaging them. If you aren’t comfortable being with someone who looks very socially active, then perhaps don’t swipe on them.

As what to say, just ask questions. You’ll soon know if they are worth getting to know.

For example, I dared to swipe on 2 men I found attractive. One of them sent a message saying ‘hottie’, and asked for my WhatsApp after 2 texts. I declined, and he unmatched me lol.

The other one said hello, I’m (name), pleased to meet you. How is your day going. That was a normal response, and I was happy to continue chatting.