Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi there I'm Cassidy and I'm need of some advice please.
I have Autism which I do struggle with on a daily basis, don't we all? I mostly struggle with noise, going out, talking and things breaking my usual routine. Somehow I managed to get in a relationship and it's going ok. I don't think I'm an amazing girlfriend but he seems to like me so I guess that's nice.
But recently he's started talking about us having a baby. And I'm not really sure what to do. He tells me I'd be a great mum but I don't think I would. I have meltdowns a lot. And I can't stand babies, nothing personal I just don't like the constant crying and being sick :/ But lately he's getting really pushy and when we have intercourse he takes off protection even though I tell him not to. I don't think I want to get pregnant. There's a lot of factors here working against me. I think I'd be a terrible mum and I've also got a brain tumour which I haven't told anyone about yet. That's something else I need help with. I'm going to die and I don't know how to tell my mum, dad and sisters and brother. It's getting bigger all the time and sometimes I faint. I told my boyfriend the fainting is related to my low vitamin intake.
Not sure what to do about both things.
Hello
In regards to your boyfriend, how long have you been together? It seems a bit soon for him to be trying to get you pregnant. He may think you will be a great mum, but the decision to get pregnant is yours, and clearly you don’t want to, especially with your current health situation!
I would firstly suggest going to the GP, and talking about contraception. Hopefully you can find something that works well for you.
Secondly, have a chat with your partner. Explain that children aren’t on your list of things to do right now, or even at all. He needs to respect your decisions.
Regarding your health, please open up and tell your parents. They will be glad you told them, trust me. I’m sure you will feel a little better knowing they are there to support you through this.