Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all, would appreciate your thoughts on this.
As a recently diagnosed older person, I am now starting to realize, after reading a lot of other People's stuff on this site, that I have been masking more or less my whole life.
Some say you should drop the mask now that you know you have as, and show your real self.
I have given this a lot of thought over the last few days, and I'm not sure if it's a good idea- for me anyway.
The masking I've developed over the last 50 years or so seems to get me bye, and is more or less socially acceptable (when I can keep it up, which is most of the time)
But when I really look at the 'real' me, I don't think it would be a good idea to show myself.
The real me doesn't seem to like others (in the main), and can be mean spirited, shy and recluse and judgemental.
Is this real me what autism is?
If so should I carry on with the masking, and try to subdue the real me?
Does anyone else think this
I have been thinking this a lot lately , I haven’t been diagnosed yet, still a learning curve for me, not that I dislike people but I always feel happier in my own company, I’ve always struggled in social situations never know how to feel or what to do or say, constant feeling someone’s judging me.
That is a sort of 'performance anxiety', because so many aspects of socialising, that come subconsciously to neurotypicals, require intellectual input we are 'putting on a show' and are always in fear of forgetting our lines and 'stage directions'.
If you channel your own sensitivity, and approach most situations with a good heart, you can win the affections of many normies, particulary if you learn how best to employ humour, and if neccesary cutting humour.
The normies actually LIKE being "pushed around" a bit, it seems to make them feel secure. (They are completely MAD I tell you! No wonder we find them such a challenge. But they are all mad the same way...) Ever since my diagnosis, figuring out how to put them to good use has been a recurrent thing for me. Their psychology fascinates me, they are clearly so easy to manipulate and make jump though hoops compared to us. (Come on, you know really why so many of us are unemployed a lot of the time!)
If the reader can give this comment a thumbs up or thumbs down on it's own merits, independent of whether you like or don't like other things I've said, basing your "vote" on how accurate my assessment of the normie majority is, that would be both educational and interesting for me (and maybe others)
I did some sales training which was basically how to switch a normie onto autopilot, it's not that they are mad as such but their brains really are averse to thinking. There are loads of cool tricks you can do where they say things that are clearly wrong but they just can't switch on enough to see it.
For example;
So if a bat and a ball together cost £1.10 and then bat costs £1 more than the ball how much does a ball cost?
Don't think I've been diagnosed long enough to take a position on that one about it's.
I will observe them closely from now on though isperg. I like to study these things too