People saying "I wish you were normal"

First time posting here so I hope I'm doing it right. 

I've noticed a lot recently when my Mum talks to others about me or my brother having Autism people will often say things like "Oh they have something wrong with them" or "If only we could give them normal brains" and I'm standing there feeling like absolute crap cause then I think "Well I'm obviously useless so what's even the point of being Autistic and being alive. Then there's the sympathetic sad looks from people and the" Oh I'm so sorry for you" comments. It just really gets me down sometimes. I'm very proud of my Autism as it makes me who I am but when I hear the comments it's like a punch in the gut. 

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  • Hi there, I was just reading your message and it made me feel terrible as I have 2 boys aged 21 / 13 my 13ys old is on the Spectrum, and I sometimes look at him and think I wish you was like your brother, my son is hi functioning so to look at him you would think he is the same as any other 13yr old, but he’s not Advanced as all the other 13ys old and that’s what makes to worried as I’m not sure he could defend himself, so he only sees a few friends that he has grown up with, but I feel he is missing out he loves being with all the other lads, he just doesn’t get the chance, and it makes me sad for him, and that’s why I say to my self I wish you was like your brother, and then I hate my self for even thinking it.  

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  • Hi there, I was just reading your message and it made me feel terrible as I have 2 boys aged 21 / 13 my 13ys old is on the Spectrum, and I sometimes look at him and think I wish you was like your brother, my son is hi functioning so to look at him you would think he is the same as any other 13yr old, but he’s not Advanced as all the other 13ys old and that’s what makes to worried as I’m not sure he could defend himself, so he only sees a few friends that he has grown up with, but I feel he is missing out he loves being with all the other lads, he just doesn’t get the chance, and it makes me sad for him, and that’s why I say to my self I wish you was like your brother, and then I hate my self for even thinking it.  

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