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People saying "I wish you were normal"

Tashlovesturtles
over 3 years ago

First time posting here so I hope I'm doing it right. 

I've noticed a lot recently when my Mum talks to others about me or my brother having Autism people will often say things like "Oh they have something wrong with them" or "If only we could give them normal brains" and I'm standing there feeling like absolute crap cause then I think "Well I'm obviously useless so what's even the point of being Autistic and being alive. Then there's the sympathetic sad looks from people and the" Oh I'm so sorry for you" comments. It just really gets me down sometimes. I'm very proud of my Autism as it makes me who I am but when I hear the comments it's like a punch in the gut. 

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  • over 3 years ago
    Loz said:
    It's an office building so despite claims to the contrary, they don't really like you to be different. It means they have to read policies and understand that some behaviours can't be helped. I got told last year that I needed to improve my 'poor attitude' after a situation.
    Desmond79 said:
    My ultimate mistake was not declaring my disability on the application form

    Hi Loz and Desmond, can relate to both of these comments. I too had tried to muddle through employment without declaring Aspergers, but finding I would have to in future after being told to "improve at communication skills" in appraisals.  Had the best, most understanding employer from 2011, until a restructure when upper management decided to 'Outsource' several departments and I was made redundant November 2019.

    Now I'm in the difficult position of looking again, but roles are a combination of some things I'd do well, and others that I wouldn't, with customer contact and "excellent communication skills" on every job description.

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  • over 3 years ago
    Loz said:
    It's an office building so despite claims to the contrary, they don't really like you to be different. It means they have to read policies and understand that some behaviours can't be helped. I got told last year that I needed to improve my 'poor attitude' after a situation.
    Desmond79 said:
    My ultimate mistake was not declaring my disability on the application form

    Hi Loz and Desmond, can relate to both of these comments. I too had tried to muddle through employment without declaring Aspergers, but finding I would have to in future after being told to "improve at communication skills" in appraisals.  Had the best, most understanding employer from 2011, until a restructure when upper management decided to 'Outsource' several departments and I was made redundant November 2019.

    Now I'm in the difficult position of looking again, but roles are a combination of some things I'd do well, and others that I wouldn't, with customer contact and "excellent communication skills" on every job description.

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