Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone,
Just wondering if anyone has ever been in a similar situation? I still live at home with my mum and the past few years have become increasingly difficult for her to keep the family home going especially considering I can't contribute as I am one of the 78% of unemployed people with autism. Anyway she was sadly forced into selling and today we finally moved. I left behind the only home I have ever known (we lived abroad for about 5 years when I was very young but kept the house and rented it out). I've really been dreading it all happening and kind of hoped in some distant fairytale land that some how it wouldn't happen. But now it has and I've struggled so much today. I've been crying every few minutes and I am NOT a crier. Ever. I'm just really really struggling with it all. I'm guessing my ASD and the whole resistance to change thing is playing a part here but I feel like such a wally. People move house all the time and its really not a big deal. I know my friends and family are there for me but I don't feel like I can really talk to them about how much I hate this because there are so many very much worse things in the world. Don't get me wrong, I fully understand, especially given the last year, that things could be a lot worse and I am very grateful for what I do have. I also know that in time it will get easier and I just need to get used to it all but at the moment I'm struggling to see past it all. I spent the majority of my 30 years in that house with the same neighbours, the same everything. And because mum was forced into selling she had to find somewhere quick so our new house is far from ideal and neither of us are particularly excited by the prospect.
Has anyone else ever struggled with having to move house?
Sophie
I understand how you feel now more than ever.
I have been moving my whole life. I live in Sweden but my family is originally from Poland. I don’t remember the change of countries since I was only 2 when it happened but ever since then we have moved houses about 5 times. This means I never rly settled anywhere and I’ve struggled to find “my place” as a 20 yo.
Changes were always a big struggle for me. I found out I was coping with them in other ways. Tried to gain control through food etc (which led me into a serious ED that luckily am almost recovered from).
I never rly made a big deal out of the movings but at the same time I never felt at home in our apartments. Now, for the first time after 6 years of living in our current home, I feel like I belong here. Yet that feeling is yet to be destroyed since I got the opportunity to get my own place and will move out in a few days. At first I was so excited but now I’m suffering from anxious sleepless nights and terror of how I will manage alone. But I think the worst part is the awareness of closing a chapter. I won’t go back to this home that I got so attached to, my room that is my personality, my things. I’m feeling extremely sentimental and I just want to stay. People tell me to be excited but I just can’t right now…I need time to grieve.