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Moving house

NAS69281
over 3 years ago

Hello everyone, 

Just wondering if anyone has ever been in a similar situation? I still live at home with my mum and the past few years have become increasingly difficult for her to keep the family home going especially considering I can't contribute as I am one of the 78% of unemployed people with autism. Anyway she was sadly forced into selling and today we finally moved. I left behind the only home I have ever known (we lived abroad for about 5 years when I was very young but kept the house and rented it out). I've really been dreading it all happening and kind of hoped in some distant fairytale land that some how it wouldn't happen. But now it has and I've struggled so much today. I've been crying every few minutes and I am NOT a crier. Ever. I'm just really really struggling with it all. I'm guessing my ASD and the whole resistance to change thing is playing a part here but I feel like such a wally. People move house all the time and its really not a big deal. I know my friends and family are there for me but I don't feel like I can really talk to them about how much I hate this because there are so many very much worse things in the world. Don't get me wrong, I fully understand, especially given the last year, that things could be a lot worse and I am very grateful for what I do have. I also know that in time it will get easier and I just need to get used to it all but at the moment I'm struggling to see past it all. I spent the majority of my 30 years in that house with the same neighbours, the same everything. And because mum was forced into selling she had to find somewhere quick so our new house is far from ideal and neither of us are particularly excited by the prospect. 

Has anyone else ever struggled with having to move house? 

Sophie 

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  • over 1 year ago

    Hi Sophie,

    Yes I've had to move house a few times now, mostly during my teens which had added to the anxiety and confusion I was already experiencing.

    I really hated moving house. Each time it was so stressful because I focused on the things I was going to miss and worried about where I was going. What if I didn't like the house? What if the neighbours are noisy? Things like that.

    The last move was a struggle. However it was worth it. The house I'm in now is beautiful and probably my fav one. Been here six years and it's in the countryside and I really love it.

    Moving is horrible at the time. But once you've had time to adjust and get used to your new surroundings I think it can be positive as well.

    I hope it worked out for you in the end.

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  • over 1 year ago

    Hi Sophie,

    Yes I've had to move house a few times now, mostly during my teens which had added to the anxiety and confusion I was already experiencing.

    I really hated moving house. Each time it was so stressful because I focused on the things I was going to miss and worried about where I was going. What if I didn't like the house? What if the neighbours are noisy? Things like that.

    The last move was a struggle. However it was worth it. The house I'm in now is beautiful and probably my fav one. Been here six years and it's in the countryside and I really love it.

    Moving is horrible at the time. But once you've had time to adjust and get used to your new surroundings I think it can be positive as well.

    I hope it worked out for you in the end.

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