Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello!
I was wondering if anyone else else feels the same way about dating apps?
I’m 40 and single. I was diagnosed with ASD 7 weeks ago and it’s explained why I’ve always struggled in relationships. With everything that’s gone on in the last year, dating apps seem like the only way to meet anyone now. I’ve always found the concept difficult to grasp, very fake, I never know what to say and seem to struggle to match with other people then can’t get my personality across without seeming weird as I have a very dry sense of humour. Now I’m concerned about how someone will react to me being autistic as I’d only be able to be honest about it. I’ve found it’s best for me to avoid the apps altogether, but I don’t want to be alone forever. It’s very frustrating!
I find it virtually impossible to meet people as friends or for a relationship.
I haven't tried dating apps because my perception of them is basically what Plastic said, but there doesn't really seem to be any other way to meet people nowadays.
When the lockdown restrictions are relaxed more I want to try going to some meet up groups, but that is not an environment I thrive in for obvious reasons. I would generally say nothing the whole time and it might take me many months to be comfortable enough to say much to people. I am always afraid of being thought of as boring, but my interests are very niche and I find that I have nothing in common with anyone I've ever met.
If you search for people into your niche interests, the groups might be small but you've all got something in common to start with.