Husband who wont get diagnosed

Hi guys I hope you can help I’m an aunty wife with a son with a spurges I also believe that my husband of 26 years has Asperger’s but he won’t countenance it or when I suggest that he may have it and that maybe some of her problems over the years particularly his behaviour has got more aggressive he’s become less present in the marriage and in the family unless it’s all on his terms and lockdown has served to change all his routineAnd plunging into anxiety and depression which is blaming on everyone and anything other than being able to reflect.

I suppose my question is has anybody ever experienced partner Burgess but won’t address will talk about it anyway?