How to have a romantic relationship if you can't flirt/ read between the lines??

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Being able to be romantic is not a skill that is innate in every person; it's a skill that is gained over the years.

I feel your struggles. Never been good at this type of thing  

I would suggest that users and abusers can smell desperation so if you're not good at flirting and spotting interest, you might not spot a bad egg homing in on you.

As a middle-aged aspie, I have learned that the high-functioning aspie males who can manage a career seem to be in a similar position from predatory women.    

These guys tend to be nice blokes with serious trust issues but tend to look at a relationship as desirable and closer to pair-bonding like swans rather that dealing with shallow women demanding huge gestures to 'prove' their love.

I'd also suggest that you should look for a male with parents who are still together - his measurement / vision of a relationship means life-long commitment and solving issues over immediately splitting up if things get tough.

These guys will tend to be specialists - scientists, architects, engineers etc. - try to think of what interests you might have with them and you'll find as many as you can imagine.       I'm 99% sure all of my friends are undiagnosed aspies.  

These people tend to not see imaginary societal limits - they'll be very inquisitive 'nerds' who want to explore the world - especially if they have a like-minded partner to share it all with.

The flirting becomes unnecessary - you either see interest in each other's minds - or you don't.  

Just my analysis......

That's what I was trying to get at...similar interests. We both enjoyed going to gigs on dates

Hello,

yes, I too struggle to understand flirting and have missed so many attempts to gain my attention. It always helps if you can find someone you share an interest with. That would make it easy to meet up and take things from there. Start off as friends and see how it feels. I would like to meet someone but social opertunites are somewhat limited at present for all of us. I wish you luck in your search. 

I can't flirt for toffee and I can't read between the lines. A guy at work once really really obviously flirted with me and it dawned on me about five years later what his intentions were. I felt daft but at the time if I had realised,  I wouldn't have known how to react anyway. Also in my current role....a colleague winked at me, and another occasion said "oh I always forget it's that day when you're here, it's always nice to see you". I don't know what level this behaviour is.

I'm in a long term relationship so that's like a safety net. If I was available, I wouldn't know how to read that kind of behaviour i mentioned above and i wold have no idea how to instigate or show interest without making a fool of myself or just blurting out how i felt.. And I'm sure this would  get me down and frustrated. I've only ever been in one relationship which is my current one. I met my current partner on a night out when I was three sheels to the wind. I think at the time we both just wanted someone who was into the same music and liked dancing.  I don't think there's every been flirting but he's very attentive. Before i met him, I always maintained to be myself to not act like everyone else or my friends. That was really important to me. (I'm awaiting a diagnosis. I've been with my other half since LONG before I has ever really heard of autism).

I actually think the directness in autistic women's behaviour can be quite attractive. But there's a fine line where you can be taken advantage of.

I think what I'm trying to say is, be yourself and if you are honest and confident within yourself that will shine through. Not all men are flirty.

Yes, online dating helps as it takesthe ambiguity out. You can be more upfront and clear about meeting for a date, asking for a second one. There's no worrying if they're just being friendly.

I can't flirt, but people tell me I'm flirty, I have no idea how. Maybe I,m just curious about people, smile, ask about them, have no problem asking to hang out as friends.

I,m totally hopeless at readi g other people's signals or progressing things and have missed some good opportunities. I'm working on that if i intuit a small amount theymay be flirting then they are, and i just have to say something like "are you flirting" "that's nice" "do you want a date."

We are what we are and maybe online matching could help?