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How to have a romantic relationship if you can't flirt/ read between the lines??

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I am a very recently diagnosed 22 year old woman and I really want to be in a romantic relationship (I know that sounds very sad and desperate!!). I have had a boyfriend in my teens but we were more like friends. I feel like I can never truly be happy until I am in a relationship/ have a family, which is a very negative way to think, I know, but many of my NT friends have boyfriends/ girlfriends and I feel unaccomplished compared to them.

But I'm afraid that I can never initiate a romantic relationship because I have no idea what flirting is and what the difference is between flirting and making friends. I also know that reading between the lines is important when you're trying to form a romantic relationship... how do people on the spectrum navigate that? 

I would be extremely grateful if any of you could please provide any tips on dating/ forming deep, romantic connections with people!! Many thanks :)

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  • in reply to DaveAsperg

    Yes, online dating helps as it takesthe ambiguity out. You can be more upfront and clear about meeting for a date, asking for a second one. There's no worrying if they're just being friendly.

    I can't flirt, but people tell me I'm flirty, I have no idea how. Maybe I,m just curious about people, smile, ask about them, have no problem asking to hang out as friends.

    I,m totally hopeless at readi g other people's signals or progressing things and have missed some good opportunities. I'm working on that if i intuit a small amount theymay be flirting then they are, and i just have to say something like "are you flirting" "that's nice" "do you want a date."