Published on 12, July, 2020
my boyfriend with autism recently broke up with me, he told me that he still loves and cares for me but is overwhelmed in the relationship, I really care for him and I made some mistakes in our relationship, we are both young but I really want us to work in the future, we’ve continued being friends and he says he wants to work on us but doesn’t have the effort or energy. We stayed friends but a few days after our breakup we slept together and it confused me. We can have fun being friends but I can’t help but hope in the back of my mind that he’s going to re-charge and want to resolve things again, I love him very dearly but he told me today that he wouldn’t care if any of his friends died, including me, he said he wished he didn’t feel that way and he doesn’t know how to change it. I can’t help but think he doesn’t care about me anymore and wether I should leave him alone or not? Because he wants to talk to me but I don’t know wether that’s the best decision for him. He can’t communicate his emotions and most of the time he shuts off his emotions and feels numb all of the time. Any advice on how I can help him or what I should do? I’ve tried research and I’ve done most the things that people have said but nothing seems to be working for him. He also had a bit of a breakdown when we talked about our relationship and he started to hit his head.
He invited me over to stay with him, I know I shouldn’t of but there was nothing intimate involved we just talked. He says he doesn’t know what he wants anymore so I don’t think maybe this is something related to his autism Im not sure. Oh I’m distraught because I love him but I know I can’t convince him otherwise. I’ve advised him to get on here I think it will help him. I’m seeing him on his birthday because he has no other plans but I just want to be a good friend to him now and help him understand his feelings
It might be hard on and off for a while, but that's love. Sometimes it's wrong for us but we stay in there until we've no resource left and have no option to give up, and sometimes it works out. I have read AS's can have a hard time splitting up when they want to cos they feel bad, I,ve certainly watched a close friend miscommnicate and stay stuck in a relationship he wanted to get out of for 15 months. And I know another AS who withdraws when she really does want to be with her partner. People can be hard work to understand! I hope things go well for you.