Published on 12, July, 2020
my boyfriend with autism recently broke up with me, he told me that he still loves and cares for me but is overwhelmed in the relationship, I really care for him and I made some mistakes in our relationship, we are both young but I really want us to work in the future, we’ve continued being friends and he says he wants to work on us but doesn’t have the effort or energy. We stayed friends but a few days after our breakup we slept together and it confused me. We can have fun being friends but I can’t help but hope in the back of my mind that he’s going to re-charge and want to resolve things again, I love him very dearly but he told me today that he wouldn’t care if any of his friends died, including me, he said he wished he didn’t feel that way and he doesn’t know how to change it. I can’t help but think he doesn’t care about me anymore and wether I should leave him alone or not? Because he wants to talk to me but I don’t know wether that’s the best decision for him. He can’t communicate his emotions and most of the time he shuts off his emotions and feels numb all of the time. Any advice on how I can help him or what I should do? I’ve tried research and I’ve done most the things that people have said but nothing seems to be working for him. He also had a bit of a breakdown when we talked about our relationship and he started to hit his head.
Like others have said, ignore the stuff about if all his friends were dead he wouldn't care. I'm exceptionally caring, loving, doting, but I can think stuff like that. It's just too abstract for me. Yet I do get upset, in my own way, when friends move away, etc. So I would care, but I process it rationally when asked and compare it to much, much worse events like all my friends being captured, held hostage and tortured in the most horrific ways for years. So I'd mark that a 10/10 horror story to care for them, so them just ending up being dead is a relief they're not going through the 10/10 scenario. Yeah, daft, but the question of them being dead is the same level of abstract daftness to me.
And also you go through a lot as a kid being autistic and you learn to be self sufficient and survive on your own, cos you have to.