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Struggling to cope with a ASD partner

NAS70253
over 3 years ago

MY Husband was diagnosed with ASD a couple of years ago and has always had episodes where it has been hard to live with him.  Recently due to Covid and isolation, these have become worse than usual, and I am really struggling.  He has so much hate for the world inside him, which he takes out on me.  I cannot do or say the right thing at the moment and its really getting me down. We are supposed to be decorating our lounge before Christmas, but he has given up on it after removing all the furniture and destroying the carpet. My problem is I find it hard to distinguish between ASD behaviour and a controlling relationship. I seem to spend all my time saying sorry. I try to understand him, but I dont always get it right and spend my life walking on eggshells around him. Feeling quite desperate right now.

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  • 7 months ago
    1. I totally empathise with everything. My husband is the same and I now feel suffocated trapped in unending routines he has no friends nor wants any. He has unrealistic unfulfilled dreams but complains and has no motivation to read the electric meter. Hes not able to cope in work and to  get reasonable adjustments for autistic people seems impossible . I constantly walk on eggshells . I also have spent 32 years covering up for his inability to manage and rationalise his behaviour. Hes unable to say sorry or empathise or listen to my emotions .
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  • 7 months ago
    1. I totally empathise with everything. My husband is the same and I now feel suffocated trapped in unending routines he has no friends nor wants any. He has unrealistic unfulfilled dreams but complains and has no motivation to read the electric meter. Hes not able to cope in work and to  get reasonable adjustments for autistic people seems impossible . I constantly walk on eggshells . I also have spent 32 years covering up for his inability to manage and rationalise his behaviour. Hes unable to say sorry or empathise or listen to my emotions .
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