Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi I'm Matthew,
My gran is very sick at the moment and will be gone in a few days sadly, my dad is going to say goodbye today.
I'm very worried about the funeral because I've never been to one before and usually when I go out to places it causes me to get very hot and I usually pass out. I'm in two minds about whether to go or not. In the past when talking about funerals my gran said she would love for me to go to hers but she understood if I couldn't do it. I don't know what to do. I want to be there, say goodbye and support my dad and mum but I'm not sure if mentally I am up to it. I do know what to do.
Hi, so I’ve been to a couple of funerals and also get hot quickly. Usually there is a ceremony held indoors and then some sort of gathering of people afterwards often with food and drink- are you worried about the ceremony specifically (the usually indoors part) or just the funeral in general? Some suggestions:
I hope these help if you’d like to go, but there’s also no judgement from anyone here (or your grandma from the sounds of things) if you feel you can’t handle it. Grief is very personal and a complex topic, so feeling uncertain around it is totally understandable.