Published on 12, July, 2020
I wanted to reach out and ask... how have people found the world of dating? Or those who have had relationships or are in one, how did it actually happen for you?
My dating history hasn’t been great so far and especially with me being of an age where lots of my friends are getting married, buying houses together and having kids, it adds to my anxiety that my life is basically stuck at the start. I don’t live in a great location for social opportunities and realistically I’m going to have a partner 40 miles away but I am ok with that. Some friends have suggested to move away to widen my pool of people but I really don’t think I could cope with that since it would be a massive change and right now I need a lot of family support.
Obviously while the coronavirus is a thing physically meeting people is going to be tricky but me and my mum both agree that there’s no reason why me and a date couldn’t just sit in a park at a distance from each other and chat. It isn’t a complete blocker. But in the current climate I think dating sites are really the only way forward, though I am open to suggestions.
So far I’ve registered on two, which my mum has been great supporting me with as I lack confidence. Not sure if I’m allowed to mention them but I have serious doubts about them. One has so few people on it and the people I’ve been matched with don’t seem very active. The other seems more active generally but there are few people near me and there’s no way of telling when they were last on, and wouldn’t be surprised if they are not active themselves.
There seems to be so few quality sites set up for autistic people and I’m nervous about entering the mainstream ones. Or needn’t I be? I really want to be with someone who understands me and I think definitely that common ground of autism has to be a good thing?
I also wondered about the agency they use on The Undateables, but wonder how useful this would be in the current climate (really wish this virus would go away!!!). Any thoughts, anyone?
I met my wife through a dating website and we got married within 6 months and had a daughter together within 18 months. I moved 40 miles to be with her and transfered my job.
I'm not going to lie the change sent my anxiety off big time ended up going to a mental health place to get assessed and recommended CBT not that it really worked all that whilst managing to hold my job down was real tough. I am a very determined person so I will fight my anxieties full on and try and get on with life as best I can.
I cannot stand dating I hate it having to get to know someone I just feel lucky I met my wife and I will always remember how terrified I was when she said she would call me for the first time haha. Thankfully she did all the talking as I just froze.
She is stunning and I think if it wasn't for my looks that my personality might not have been enough at the beginning I don't know but were are happily married.
Good luck with the dating.
Thanks for sharing Castle, that’s lovely to hear that you found love.