Where do you find your community?

Hello. I got diagnosed with ASD about 2 months ago. Immediately I felt relief - like things made sense, I had some additional information about me which I could use to try and be a bit kinder to myself. I plunged into reading everything I could but got a bit overwhelmed and now just feel totally lost. I need to work things out, work out who I actually am after 40+ years of knowing I was different but not understanding why - and I need some help to do that I think from people whose brains work like mine or who have been through this. I keep reading that I am now part of an autism community but I don't know what that means. I don't know anyone else in real life who is autistic and I'm not great with people anyway so would rather some internet based thing. There seems to be loads of website and forums but I don't know where to start. Does anyone have any recommendations of friendly online places? I've had good advice on here as I was waiting for the assessment so thank you for that.