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Asperger + Asperger relationships = successful?

DaisyDuck
over 4 years ago

Hello

I've been single a good while as discussed on a previous thread, I now know that I'd prefer a LAT (living apart together) relationship which affords us each our own space/time as well as spending time together.  I've just started dating a man who also has Asperger's (total coincidence, not a connection to how we met in the first place!) - we're only a couple of dates in...  

Wondering what other people's experience is of relationships where both partners are on the spectrum - I searched for 'relationships' but didn't find a previous thread, if I've missed it please tag it in! Although my enquiry is about romantic/intimate relationships I guess there may be parallels with long-term mixed-sex friendships too?

I know each pairing is unique but if there are some generic Pros / Cons I'm interested to know your thoughts

many thanks

Daisy

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  • over 4 years ago

    Hi Daisy! I'm afraid I don't have the answer to this. Sometimes I think that my husband is on the spectrum and sometimes I think he isn't. I do have a number of friends who are on the spectrum and what I do find is that it's easier to just be me, I don't feel the need to mask and try to act halfway 'normal'. It's nice also to have a social mirror in my autistic friends, when I notice them doing the same things that I do or reacting to situations in the same way, I find it in some way validating. Of course a romantic relationship would have a whole different dynamic to a friendship but I can definitely see the advantages of being close to someone else who has ASD.

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  • over 4 years ago

    Hi Daisy! I'm afraid I don't have the answer to this. Sometimes I think that my husband is on the spectrum and sometimes I think he isn't. I do have a number of friends who are on the spectrum and what I do find is that it's easier to just be me, I don't feel the need to mask and try to act halfway 'normal'. It's nice also to have a social mirror in my autistic friends, when I notice them doing the same things that I do or reacting to situations in the same way, I find it in some way validating. Of course a romantic relationship would have a whole different dynamic to a friendship but I can definitely see the advantages of being close to someone else who has ASD.

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