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Procrastinating

Whats-His-Face
over 4 years ago

So I'm 32 and a massive procrastinator, to the point where i literally do nothing, I'm not working and even though i'm married i'm living back with my parents(long story) this leads to a lot of problems, every one thinking and telling me i'm lazy, my physical heath is deteriorating as i don't do any exercise, don't eat properly and my personal hygiene is terrible but i can't help myself but to do nothing. I have no motivation to do anything even though i don't like being this way. I also fail at anything i put my mind too, which leads to another issue that is crippling, professionalism. If i really put my mind to something i have to get it perfect which i then neglect stuff even more and get exhausted and if i fail at said task i then beat myself up and convince myself that im stupid and useless which then makes me procrastinate. It's a violent circle that im ultimately stuck in. Im not even sure why i'm writing this post, like i don't know what im expecting to gain from writing it or what im really asking. What i will say is i hate and i mean i HATE! being called laz. God i wanna go out in the "real world" and be "normal", I want to be healthy and fit, I want to go out on days with the wife doing "normal" things like pubs, going out for food, walks, etc but i just can't. Now i feel like im rambling, don't even know what im writing but yea, i wrote it.  

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  • over 4 years ago

    I did some reading last night and have found a few thing that I think I suffer with that may be causing me to procrastinate. Avoidance and depression http://www.aspiestrategy.com/2013/04/adult-autism-avoidance-and-depression.html?m=1

    Autistic inertia http://unstrangemind.com/autistic-inertia-an-overview/

    and apathy, I’m also aware think back over my life that the perfectionism and procrastination have always been an issue but also a safety mechanism, I think I rely on it to avoid situations that cause stress and discomfort. I’m also not sure if I hate being this way because it not socially accepted rather than I don’t like being this way, I actually feel at peace the majority of time whilst I’m doing it, I’m just aware how hard it is for my wife as she’s NT and wants to do couples things. 

    I think I should also I’m still dealing with the diagnosis of which I only got last September, don’t think I’ve got used to it yet. 

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  • over 4 years ago

    I did some reading last night and have found a few thing that I think I suffer with that may be causing me to procrastinate. Avoidance and depression http://www.aspiestrategy.com/2013/04/adult-autism-avoidance-and-depression.html?m=1

    Autistic inertia http://unstrangemind.com/autistic-inertia-an-overview/

    and apathy, I’m also aware think back over my life that the perfectionism and procrastination have always been an issue but also a safety mechanism, I think I rely on it to avoid situations that cause stress and discomfort. I’m also not sure if I hate being this way because it not socially accepted rather than I don’t like being this way, I actually feel at peace the majority of time whilst I’m doing it, I’m just aware how hard it is for my wife as she’s NT and wants to do couples things. 

    I think I should also I’m still dealing with the diagnosis of which I only got last September, don’t think I’ve got used to it yet. 

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