feeling lonely and trapped

Hello,

My name is Kyle and I'm 32 years old. I am not diagnosed with autism or Asperger's, but I believe I have It or possibly something closely connected to it. My biggest problem is socialising, I can write to my hearts content in a message conversation but when it comes to physically being around someone to talk to I hardly say a word, and I'm not a very confident person either so it has taken a lot to even come on here and write this message. I tried getting diagnosed through the NHS, and was told by the nurse it was worth getting diagnosed. but nearly 7 months later there is nothing, I got in contact with her again about 3 months later and said her organisation couldn't help and she would get in contact with a couple of others that could, but once again I never heard anything. I tried contacting her for a third time but I can't get through to her, it's like she's intentionally ignoring me, along with the fact my girlfriend left me yesterday after just over a year. all that combined has left me feeling alone and trapped because I have no friends and no one to talk to. Is there anyone that could spare an hour or two of their day to talk to me through out the week?

Is it worth going for a private diagnosis? I work full time for an agency so I could afford it and because of my situation I'm desperate to just be around people like me. I do have a social group for my area but they are in different places all the time and one is in a pub, and I don't like loud places so I'm very reluctant to go.