In therapy the counsellor use to reply to emails but now won't. I asked about it yesterday and he said not to encourage dependency. But I was left guessing why he wasn't replying. Is it me or is the ASD making it hard to understand the situation? Not knowing what is going on has made me anxious. Would you find it hard to understand because of your autism?
It's probably simply because it might be seen as crossing professional boundaries to be repeatedly replying to emails from a client, I wouldn't take it personally. Yes autism would make it more difficult to read the intention or reason behind the behaviour.
thanks so much for your reply
I agree with Kitsun.
Also, the therapist is doing a job, just like anyone else and will have set working hours so may not respond outside those hours.
I am seeing a psychologist (privately funded) and I am aware that they don't immediately respond to emails and don't engage in 'dialogue' via email.
I understand that and respect their boundaries in respect to this.
Sounds like a good time to start using a diary. Or at least write those emails to yourself. And then take them, into the session. I think the activity of writing your thoughts will help. Maybe ask for advice on doing this.
Plus you can also post in the forum.
Thanks everyone for replying really helps
Yes, they have professional guidelines and discouraging dependency is one of them explicitly. So it's nothing personal and not your autism.
Good that you ask the question, don't agonise, ask away :)
Actually, that is a good point. They can't seem to be in a position that can look odd. It's safeguarding. For instance, my support worker cannot take anything from me. And I remember lots of things like this from my safeguarding training.
"If it even looked dodgy and you cannot prove otherwise don't do it. Remember you have to look at it in the worst possible way." E.g. Two people communicating outside work hours. The worst one from safeguarding was enabling. For example, someone has a drug habit. But you give them a food voucher because they are starving. But now they can buy more drugs.
It's not you honestly. And anxiety can build about this. And really one does not need to ask of the doctor why. But they should explain. "they are the rules"
However, what do you do in the meantime? You should definitely ask.
As a healthcare professional, you could potentially be accused of allsorts by communicating with clients outside of work. Best to just not go there!
It's probably, both a case of professional boundaries and explicit rules.
I remember visiting a centre for physical and mental disabled people. And the all the staff were very friendly and helpful. However there were strict written orders that staff must not accept Facebook friendship requests from clients or anything similar.
I think he's probably rationing his time more effectively between his own priorities. The reason he has given you isn't very satisfactory but you'll just have to accept his new policy. Yes ASD would make it hard for you to accept because the explanation is incomplete and that drives you nuts. You could ask him directly for clarification in your next session - you have a right to know if it's something you personally need to work on or just a unilateral decision.
I hate psychiatrists by the way.