Published on 12, July, 2020
My username shows that I have had enough with sending cards just because tradition says a particular date has come round again.
Now it’s mother’s day & it’s nagging at me. I do not want to send anything to my mother. Yet I often cave in because I feel so guilty if I don’t.
Anyone else get this?
i have a particular issue with my mum as I feel she has never properly listened to me and when she did listen she always made it about her. I don’t know if it’s possible that my personality makes me see her as a narcissist (only two other people agree) but that’s how I see her.
i don’t want to give in!
I just remembered how *much* I relate to Sheldon Cooper's views on gifts! (Big Bang Theory if you haven't seen it).
Sheldon: Wait! You bought me a present?Penny: Uh-huh.Sheldon: Why would you do such a thing?Penny: I don’t know. ‘Cause it’s Christmas?Sheldon: Oh, Penny. I know you think you’re being generous, but the foundation of gift-giving is reciprocity. You haven’t given me a gift, you’ve given me an obligation.Howard: Don’t feel bad, Penny, it’s a classic rookie mistake. My first Hanukkah with Sheldon, he yelled at me for eight nights.Penny: Now, honey, it’s okay.You don’t have to get me anything in return.Sheldon: Of course I do. The essence of the custom is that I now have to go out and purchase for you a gift of commensurate value and representing the same perceived level of friendship as that represented by the gift you’ve given me. It’s no wonder suicide rates skyrocket this time of year.Penny: Okay, you know what? Forget it. I’m not giving you a present.Sheldon: No, it’s too late. I see it. That elf sticker says to Sheldon. The die has been cast, the moving finger has writ, Hannibal has crossed the Alps.
That’s funny and would be true for me if only I bought into all that reciprocal stuff.