Published on 12, July, 2020
I know ranting won't change or achieve anything, but I feel I just need to get this off my chest before I end up screaming at someone.
Why are people so bloody selfish and impulsive? It drives me crackers as I fail to understand the logic behind it. When I spend more time on my own, it's then that I realise how much I bottle up the frustrations other people cause me.
For example, I have been away from home recently and I live in a row of houses where we all have one parking space and there is a small path access to the houses. On returning home I have realised that the neighbors have for some reason have taken upon themselves to battle amongst themselves to slowly try and conquer the parking area, by parking over their areas, having more than one car in the parking area and generally causing havoc. No one will confront each other and instead they keep playing this pointless game like chess, taking it in turn to make moves to block each other in/take over the area. Because I haven't been around to witness this full game play out, my parking spot has now been consumed and the access path to my house blocked by bins and plant pots. It is all pointless and ridiculous. Everyone knows what they are entitled to and agreed to that when choosing to live in their house - I wish they would just respect everyone's rights and none of this nonsense would be happening.
On top of this I then have multiple people putting their impulsive actions upon me when I have made it clear I have made plans - if I don't drop everything to go ahead with their new whim/decision that has appeared out of the blue, I am made to feel guilty or selfish. This often happens when I am feeling particularly burnout and just want to relax and unwind. I have made plans - to relax, why is that so hard for anyone to understand and respect. Then there is the disrespect on our personal spaces. I like to keep my environment in a particular way to feel calm and relaxed, but other people don't seem to respect this and insist on messing things up, moving things and generally meddling. Eurgh - people should learn to respect people's things, spaces and rights more. Rant over! :-)
I have witnessed this. In my extensive measurement, humans are hugely territorial animals and I have deduced the minimum range for a neighbour is about 100' (30m). anything nearer and this petty antagonising breaks out spontaneously.
Modern estates with people crammed in will intensify this behaviour.
People pretend to be modern, sophsticated humans but in reality they are just a bunch of chimps squabbling over a few bananas.
The Chimp Paradox
The chimp brain is a hyperactive, animalistic flurry of emotions, the human brain is much more level-headed and calculated, and the computer brain works as a repository for memories and pre-learned actions.
Yes I think you are right Ellie, although I have been working harder to focus on my own needs lately, which has helped me, but I fear it has left others feeling neglected in a number of ways. It's hard to strike a balance.
You are negating your own needs and feel guilty for having them.. I do it myself ... working around everyone else’s plans and you quieting imploding :(