Published on 12, July, 2020
I know ranting won't change or achieve anything, but I feel I just need to get this off my chest before I end up screaming at someone.
Why are people so bloody selfish and impulsive? It drives me crackers as I fail to understand the logic behind it. When I spend more time on my own, it's then that I realise how much I bottle up the frustrations other people cause me.
For example, I have been away from home recently and I live in a row of houses where we all have one parking space and there is a small path access to the houses. On returning home I have realised that the neighbors have for some reason have taken upon themselves to battle amongst themselves to slowly try and conquer the parking area, by parking over their areas, having more than one car in the parking area and generally causing havoc. No one will confront each other and instead they keep playing this pointless game like chess, taking it in turn to make moves to block each other in/take over the area. Because I haven't been around to witness this full game play out, my parking spot has now been consumed and the access path to my house blocked by bins and plant pots. It is all pointless and ridiculous. Everyone knows what they are entitled to and agreed to that when choosing to live in their house - I wish they would just respect everyone's rights and none of this nonsense would be happening.
On top of this I then have multiple people putting their impulsive actions upon me when I have made it clear I have made plans - if I don't drop everything to go ahead with their new whim/decision that has appeared out of the blue, I am made to feel guilty or selfish. This often happens when I am feeling particularly burnout and just want to relax and unwind. I have made plans - to relax, why is that so hard for anyone to understand and respect. Then there is the disrespect on our personal spaces. I like to keep my environment in a particular way to feel calm and relaxed, but other people don't seem to respect this and insist on messing things up, moving things and generally meddling. Eurgh - people should learn to respect people's things, spaces and rights more. Rant over! :-)
I have witnessed this. In my extensive measurement, humans are hugely territorial animals and I have deduced the minimum range for a neighbour is about 100' (30m). anything nearer and this petty antagonising breaks out spontaneously.
Modern estates with people crammed in will intensify this behaviour.
People pretend to be modern, sophsticated humans but in reality they are just a bunch of chimps squabbling over a few bananas.
The Chimp Paradox
The chimp brain is a hyperactive, animalistic flurry of emotions, the human brain is much more level-headed and calculated, and the computer brain works as a repository for memories and pre-learned actions.
Yes I think you are right Ellie, although I have been working harder to focus on my own needs lately, which has helped me, but I fear it has left others feeling neglected in a number of ways. It's hard to strike a balance.
You are negating your own needs and feel guilty for having them.. I do it myself ... working around everyone else’s plans and you quieting imploding :(
Get the psyche and hope you’re kindof spiraling Into a .more secure burrow. It’s ok to worry about you and not worry about others as well x
I'm less ranty, more irritable today. Smallest thing seems to be pushing me closer to the edge and verging on flipping out.
This is usually a sign I am more tired than I think I am and possibly about to go into a phase of burnout. I find it harder to keep the mask on, so the no filter, blunt, honest me instead creeps out and verbally attacks someone with no warning. Not a good place to be really.
I think it is more to do with when I hit these stages I rely on my routine and predictability more than usual, but instead I am dancing around everyone else's impulsive decisions and poor time management that puts me in a state of constant flux with my energy levels and processing - it's exhausting! How do people operate like this normally?!
In the whirlwind of doing the usual family get togethers and working round everyone else's plans, the rush from one thing to the next with no set time has left me frazzled and I have accidentally left my Mirtazapine at another house, so now I am stressing over that as well. Tomorrow is another day as they say, I just hope it is less exhausting and more predictable.
How are you anyway Ellie?
...I hope thinking I meant putting the neighbours themselves up their own exhaust pipes..I’ve tried that before and their heads are too big.
Are you still feeling a bit ranty today? Or just a bit hoppy Starbucks?
I won't. If you are going to do that you are better off using a potato. On the old cars it used to cause them splutter and some would even fire the potato out.....not that I tried on my old campervan. Ahem!
I'm sure the results wouldn't be as impressive on a modern car. A warning light would probably come on the dash and it would fail to start and that would be it.
please don’t revert to putting them up the exhaust pipes
Well that's it then - I must visit the supermarket to purchase a stack load of bananas to distract the neighbors! Maybe this is how I can add a plot twist to the drama. Resident resorts to lobbing bananas at neighbors over territorial disputes.....I can see the headlines now.
It is not my theory... but nor am I an angel
I'm not sure a human brain is more level headed. I've studied both and I see no differences. Chimps spend all day playing politics and plotting how to screw each other over for a bit of food or political power. This is common in animals that live in groups where an excess of food means they have lots of spare time on their hands.
The devil finds work.....