Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi Everyone,
thank you so much for reading this.
im in a great dilemma and it’s been in my head since last night and I’m trying to work out if other ppl feel the same way.
i have an urge to correct ppl.
for example it’s been very dry, it sais everywhere no bbq in local parks yet ppl still do it. I got in a argument with these 2 group if foreign ppl because I ask them whether they don’t read the signs posted everywhere in the park or don’t watch tv as it’s been prohibited to bbq any public parks even if it’s been allowed previously due to the dry weather.
again they threatened me, I called the police, etc...
i juat can’t keep my mouth shut, if someone doing something wrong I get pissed off.
i get so wound up about people Parking on the double yellow by my son’s school I have been bugging the Council for months to monitor and ticket them.
i also suffer from chronic depression and anxiety disorder.
whT I’m trying to work out as I’m doing so CBT cognitive behavioural therapy is that I get wound up because of my anxiety or my Aspergers.
is it normal I feel like that?
does other ppl do it or it’s just me?
also my 5 yr old son has Aspergers too and he is the same, he can’t stop telling kids off if they doing something wrong and he even tells adults. I have to tell him it’s not his place. But I’m wondering if he picked it up from me or it’s just part of how our brain works.
my therapists said we like rules because that’s how the world make sense. Agreed
so when someone breaks those rules I get angry because I’m frustrated with the lack of certainty.
i don’t know if any of this makes any sense to others but I hope I can get some answers.
thank you so much in advance
Reni
NAS38574 said:i have an urge to correct ppl.
So do I. It should be 'people'.
Any chance of writing 'people' instead of 'ppl', please? I find text-speak to be really difficult to understand sometimes. Plus, it's lazy. If you're able to write 'Cognitive Behavioural Therapy', then 'people' isn't a huge leap.
Not laziness, by the way. I did not have time to sit down and write the comment in my phone why watching my 5 yr in the playground. Ppl was easier to write then, but I do appreciate where you come ing from. I like sense a bit judged by you for no apparent reason. If you feel you disagree with my feelings toward people perhaps you should not answer my question. Also I am sensing you have lots of time on your hands, when perhaps you have a few children around you with ASD short for autism spectrum disorder, not laziness you will find less time to criticise. You are aware the male gene usually carries it, right? ;)
The bit about the male gene is really below the belt, Reni. That's such a personal comment to make - in fact, it's bordering on sexist - and we don't even know whether it's actually scientifically true or not. I'm sorry if you were offended by Martian Tom saying he finds text speak hard to understand, but there really is no need to be so combative. He wasn't saying YOU were lazy, merely that he feels text speak is lazy: it isn't personal, and there was no need for the 'tone' of your response.
NAS38574 said:this was a quiestion about the urge of correcting ppl in general!
yes it was and Tom was very polite and said please about something he has a problem with.
you were then personally abusive to him.
NAS38574 said:This meant to be an adult conversation! No abuse!
Yes I very much agree with you, I'm glad you understand the rules.
This meant to be an adult conversation! No abuse!
i think quite few ppl has stepped over the boundaries!
this was a quiestion about the urge of correcting ppl in general!
if us. With ASD can’t be civil to each other then the world is lost!
nice to chat you all! I don’t have time or energy for negative nonsense so you enjoy picking on each other!
bye
Ouch, why on earth has it got your back up so much that someone dares to correct you when the whole thread is about your urge to correct people?
So it's ok for you to make abuse remarks to your son in an effort to get someone to turn of the clicking noise on a phone, then when some one asks you to write properly because it messes with his brain you launch a personal assault on him? How is that right?
NAS38574 said:You are aware the male gene usually carries it, right? ;)
What male gene, and what is "it"? If you mean the Y chromosome, it actually carries very little. Us men have a genetic stub where women have a full complement of genes. There are many gene variants that have been associated with autism, and supposedly many that haven't been identified.
I find it hard not to be pedantic, including with language. Some of this is a worry that if myths are not challenged, bad actions will result. I also remarked on Ringorin's use of 'flaunt' for 'flout' above. I'd have done so with a sense of humour if I had one. Now I argue with MT's sense of humour because correcting ppl is not exactly the same as correcting 'ppl'. So none of us are alone in this.
MT is also not alone in fearing impacts of mobiles on language and society.