ASD dating and Men

I think the problem might be that you're using dating sites. Going in with the expectation of finding a partner in my experience makes things a lot harder. I had a series of disastrous relationships in my young adulthood mostly because I was desperate to be in one.
My first one, I started to hate being in but stayed with for years because I felt guilty about not loving him any more. The next was abusive, definitely took advantage of how vulnerable I was after finally breaking off the last one and did me some serious emotional damage (we have to do safeguarding training at work and I loathe it because it's like going through a checklist), one I was completely not ready for and so ended disastrously.

After that I gave up on the whole thing, decided I was going to fix myself up emotionally and just live for me for a while. Joined a few social groups around my interests, met someone there I really got on with and we have been happily together for about five years now.

So I suppose my advice is to stop looking (as hard as it sounds), go out and do social stuff that makes you happy. The people you meet there will share your interests which is always a good start and you will probably meet someone naturally.

As a side note, I for one have never been interested in the stereotypically masculine, blokey males you see in fiction. I find prominent muscles just repellent. XD 

I think the problem might be that you're using dating sites. Going in with the expectation of finding a partner in my experience makes things a lot harder. I had a series of disastrous relationships in my young adulthood mostly because I was desperate to be in one.
My first one, I started to hate being in but stayed with for years because I felt guilty about not loving him any more. The next was abusive, definitely took advantage of how vulnerable I was after finally breaking off the last one and did me some serious emotional damage (we have to do safeguarding training at work and I loathe it because it's like going through a checklist), one I was completely not ready for and so ended disastrously.

After that I gave up on the whole thing, decided I was going to fix myself up emotionally and just live for me for a while. Joined a few social groups around my interests, met someone there I really got on with and we have been happily together for about five years now.

So I suppose my advice is to stop looking (as hard as it sounds), go out and do social stuff that makes you happy. The people you meet there will share your interests which is always a good start and you will probably meet someone naturally.

As a side note, I for one have never been interested in the stereotypically masculine, blokey males you see in fiction. I find prominent muscles just repellent. XD