Published on 12, July, 2020
Does anyone get upset at vague instructions that you're expected to just 'get' and yet can't?
Like "Put that cup over there", when there are three cups and 'there' isn't defined? Or "move it back a bit" when "back isn't specified as a direction?
The one situation that upset me recently was the way the instruction was phrased.
Perhaps you should consider trying this.
What they meant was. This is what you must do.
Yes for me as well!
If I ask a colleague for directions they automatically assume I know where they are as they describe the route, I then say “hang on is that by the pub?”
They say yes or no, but if I still don’t really know where the pub is and ask? They repeat the exact same thing but with a raised voice and a look that says are you stupid or something? I then shut them out as any respect or feeling I have toward them goes out the window( the middle one Lol)
I also struggle to remember strings of information due to small working memory area! I forget the first bit before they have finished.(dyslexia)
I would like to say” hang on can I write this down” but they invariably would think it unnecessary and their whole body language and tone would be demeaning, A bit like people who shout louder if speaking English in Russia ,thinking the louder you shout the more it will be understood?
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I have executive functioning issues with the same result, Little short term memory to remember instructions or lists or names sequences etc I too need to write things down but then I also get shouteat if I’m the one not giving the clear and precise instructions, directions, requests which seem clear and precise to me but not to the person listening.. Yes I find huge assumptions that I can follow or easily do the instructions because I can be slow to listen, process and then action I get into trouble for being slow or at least not responding quickly enough. This is a bit tricky when it’s something like stop Be cause whilst my brain catches up my body keeps going.