Published on 12, July, 2020
My daughter is autistic and in year 6. Yesterday 10 mins after lunch she said she felt her period and didn't have a pad on. She asked the teacher if she could go to the toilet and was told no she would have to wait until home time. My daughter said she whispered to her that she didn't have a pad on and it was a female reason. The teacher said she didn't need to know that and she should have dealt with it in her lunch break. She had to go back to her seat and bled all over her chair.
You can shoot me down in flames as well.. maybe I should be struck off as well.... but being devils advocate...
at middle school in assembly I really needed a wee but was too shy with everyone there to raise my hand or up and go to the bathroom.... rather I stuck it out... and then wet myself which caused even more embarrassment to myself....
strategies are important..for such circumstances..
now....burn the witch...!
Also...as on the spectrum knowing the embarrassment about periods..was your daughter able to be precise...I,e if I don’t go to the loo I am going to make a mess?
We have a similar rule at my school to encourage students to plan their time at break times...yes they e been to the loo and had a drink etc and are ready to learn.. but, I let people go to the toilet as sometimes it is needed... and as a female teacher I know that..
the teacher may have just been sticking to the rules so it might be a need to address the school policy rather than hang the teacher, then draw and quarter her...
Article 3 protects against: Torture, inhumane and degrading treatment. Just checked. Certainly it was inhumane and degrading.
Particular that regarding the pad and bleeding on the chair. I think it’s Art 2 degrading, inhumane and degrading treatment. You could possible argue sex discrimination as well. After all, girls only deal with this issue.
There maybe disability discrimination issues. Speak to a Solicitor. That’s my advice.
About not letting her put a pad on or not letting her go for a wee?
And speak to a solicitor about suing. Clearly breach of her Human Rights. This is degrading treatment.
Tbh I would let one of the National papers know.
Me neither!
I just meant you could kind of see how she might get annoyed if the kids come back from a break and had 30 mins in which to go, then ask to be excused 10 mins later. But I agree, when you've got to go, you've got to go (and I believe you can do yourself a damage if you don't too!)
I don't know about you but I don't think children should be made to wait go for a wee?
This woman sounds like some kind of sadist!
She has just told me that she wouldn't let her go for a wee this morning either and that she had sit on her heel to hold it in for 2 hrs
especially with girls this age! I don't remember myself, or anyone I knew well enough to discuss such things with, being exactly "regular as clockwork" at that age, so surely she can see that this is not your daughter being lazy or careless, but simply getting caught by surprise. It is of course reasonable to expect the kids to go to the toilet (for a wee) during breaks, yes, but the teacher has got it way wrong here, hasn't she!
Yes I will be seeing her on Monday. My daughter has often mentioned that she won't let them go to the loo. You would think though she would have some compassion with girls this age being female herself.
That is just abuse, pure and simple ..... whether your daughter is autistic or not, you are right to be livid. We all get "caught out" once in a while by the occasional unexpected arrival of the monthlies, even as adults. If she had desperately needed the loo, would the teacher have made her go in her pants?? I would be down to the school if that were me, complaining in the strongest terms, and also telling my daughter that if something like this happened again, she should just leave the classroom and you will deal with the consequences, if there are any. Poor lass must be mortified!