Livid with teacher

My daughter is autistic and in year 6. Yesterday 10 mins after lunch she said she felt her period and didn't have a pad on. She asked the teacher if she could go to the toilet and was told no she would have to wait until home time. My daughter said she whispered to her that she didn't have a pad on and it was a female reason. The teacher said she didn't need to know that and she should have dealt with it in her lunch break. She had to go back to her seat and bled all over her chair.

Parents
  • That is just abuse, pure and simple ..... whether your daughter is autistic or not, you are right to be livid. We all get "caught out" once in a while by the occasional unexpected arrival of the monthlies, even as adults. If she had desperately needed the loo, would the teacher have made her go in her pants?? I would be down to the school if that were me, complaining in the strongest terms, and also telling my daughter that if something like this happened again, she should just leave the classroom and you will deal with the consequences, if there are any. Poor lass must be mortified!

  • Yes I will be seeing her on Monday. My daughter has often mentioned that she won't let them go to the loo. You would think though she would have some compassion with girls this age being female herself.

Reply Children
  • I don’t think anybody should be denied the right to perform a natural bodily function at any time. What the hell do some people think they are going to achieve by preventing somebody from  meeting their natural bodily urges!!!! This is why I don’t want any of my grandchildren in school. I didn’t want my son to go to school but he wanted to and he enjoyed it so I didn’t stop him. Not allowing a child to go to the toilet when they need to is unacceptable and I would take my child out of that teachers class immediately because I would not want my child being taught by a person who thinks they have got the authority to determine when somebody does or doesn’t use the bathroom. In fact, I would ask for her immediate dismissal ~ I know that’s hardly likely to happen but I would demand it, just so they know how ludicrous and unacceptable this kind of behaviour is. I would probably make up some other ludicrous demand as well just to match the stupidity of this teacher. 

  • Me neither! 

    I just meant you could kind of see how she might get annoyed if the kids come back from a break and had 30 mins in which to go, then ask to be excused 10 mins later. But I agree, when you've got to go, you've got to go (and I believe you can do yourself a damage if you don't too!)

  • I don't know about you but I don't think children should be made to wait go for a wee?

  • This woman sounds like some kind of sadist!

  • She has just told me that she wouldn't let her go for a wee this morning either and that she had sit on her heel to hold it in for 2 hrs

  • especially with girls this age! I don't remember myself, or anyone I knew well enough to discuss such things with, being exactly "regular as clockwork" at that age, so surely she can see that this is not your daughter being lazy or careless, but simply getting caught by surprise. It is of course reasonable to expect the kids to go to the toilet (for a wee) during breaks, yes, but the teacher has got it way wrong here, hasn't she!