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What is it like for you making friends

emmy2654

I was officially diagnosed with level 2 autism about three days ago. when they called to talk about the results they gave my parents ideas about going out and different groups to make friends. However I have trouble making friends and keeping them I only have one friend at the moment and that’s all I feel I can manage. I feel if I had more it would just cause me stress and physically and mentally wear me out as that has happened in the past. I feel like if I had more than one friend it would cause a lot of drama and problems that I couldn’t handle. How do you all manage to make friends and handle more than one friend without getting tired and mentally and physically worn out.  

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  • Do you think we also give out some kind of vibe that makes us unapproachable or unfriendly? Is it where pwrhaps we are trying too hard to make friends ??

  • in reply to Dad2067
    Dad2067 said:
    Do you think we also give out some kind of vibe that makes us unapproachable or unfriendly?

    No.  I essentially think NT people are often incompatible with ND people and a lot of time, effort and heartache is spent trying to force the issue.  If ND people were able to connect with more of their own type, it might be somewhat easier, putting it simply. 

  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed

    I wonder about this point too. I often think that I could come across as unapproachable or maybe unfriendly. I rarely smile and probably lack facial expressions unless I’m trying to fit in and making an effort. I know people could find me difficult to talk to so may avoid? I don’t really know any autistic people so my view is probably based on NT folks.

  • in reply to Take5

    That happens to me too, after a while my jaw feels like its locked and I physically cannot speak....its weird

  • in reply to overwhelmed & underwhelmed

    Maybe we need like a secret sign or signal or something :)

  • in reply to whiteD404

    Smiling is difficult for me too. I had to socialise on the weekend just past and I had jaw ache from trying to smile too much.a truly exhausting experience 

  • in reply to whiteD404

    1 in 20 people you pass in the street are likely Autistic.  Unfortunately they don't wear a sign....    I'm all for t-shirts and such....    (said with irony)

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