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school refusal - who can advise?

FredFII

Hi, one of my 13 year old twins is frequently refusing (mainstream) school. I have read all around this topic and it seems that for the most part, the school are trying to adress all of the issues (which are not always obvious) and I am in constant contact with them. I think what I would like to know more than anything is which agencies are well-placed to help us with this? We already see a clinical psychologist who is taking a very softly softly approach to helping my son be able to cope, and he has been referred to Autism Outreach through school but they are not directly involved yet.

Also, any strategies to cope on a day to day basis would be helpful. I have been riding this emotional rollercoaster for too long now with the two boys and the ongoing battles with the authorities etc. I know there are many of you who are i the same position and I do have a good local support network of friends who are sympathetic, but feel I might need more at the moment.

Many thanks in advance, Tracey

  • hi i was just wondering if anyone out there could kindly give me any advice or infomation in what to do next i have a son who was dieagnosed with autism and adhd last year hes just turned 11 and due to leave his primary school to go to the local mainstream accademy which i applied for him to go because his older brother and his cousin also attend there he hasnt many friends as it is and his 1 only best friend is also been excepted to go there but unfortuneatly for us we had a letter from derbyshire county council saying they have placed tyler in [Academy A] why they have put him there i do not know at all when i clearly applied for the [Academy B] for many reasons the biggest 1 being tyler has it in his head hes going there the primary school [name removed by moderator] were he attends now also has had the idea of him strating there in sept so they have lready started his early transition days already to prepare him its more local than [Academy A] is to us so we will find it very difficult to get tyler to and back from there .Meand my husband put in an appeal straight away but to be told today hes 5th in line for his appeal and they are stopping his early transition days to the [Academy B] which as anyone can imagaine we are grately dissapionted and dont know where to turn next has anybody also been in this same situation or any advice were to turn next would be gratefully excepted thank you all so much for your time in reading my situation 

    Dear Tylerbaz06,

    To ensure that your privacy is maintained, and your son's, the names of schools have been removed.  Please see the Community Rules here: http://community.autism.org.uk/rules

    Regards,

    Kerri-Mod

  • Hello Eve,

    thanks for your reply. I am glad to hear that you are managing to keep your daughter going and wish her every success! I am hoping to have a big mtg with as many professionals as possible involved in the next few weeks. In the meantime, both school and I are at a loss. He became aggressive with me and actually hit me for the first time ever this morning. Things are reaching a point where I think we have to consider our options..

    I will look at the links you've included.

    Thanks again

    Tracey

  • Just wanted to say hello and hoping you get the help you and your sons need.

    My daughter has been given a diagnosis of being on the autistic spectrum and has difficulties with meeting course work deadlines or even starting certain projects due to her perfectionism. 

    Recently this has resulted in her being mentally over-loaded so I have kept her off school a day at the most in a week here and there. I  know how easily it could tip in to total avoidance so I have to act like a cheer leader and coach and sometimes have to insist - cruel to be kind.  I also make her breakfast even though she is 15, check her timetable for help with packing her bag (something she is unable to face the night before) fetch her coat, tell her how much time she has left before we have to leave the house to walk quite a way to the bus stop. 

    On the days she is off, I always contact the school first thing by email or phone to explain.  I think as long as they know what is happening, and why, they are more understanding.

    But I can see you are having much deeper problems.  You might like to contact the following which is run by parents who have faced similar problems to yourself.

    www.schoolrefusal.co.uk/

    But looks like it's not been up-dated recently - just look up school refusal and see what you find.

    I found this e-learning site which your son could use to learn from home, you may need a referral for here

    sites.google.com/.../

    and here

    docs.google.com/viewer

    Good Luck

    Eve