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5yr old son recently diagnosed, behavioural frustration

KcM

Hi everyone,

im new to this and am reaching out to others. my son is in his first year of primary school and recently his behaviour has gotten worse. He took a grow spurt over the summer holiday and is now the biggest in the class he height and broadness. He has tendencies to lash out and can be very controlling. My partner and I have been brought into the school due to his hitting and unrulines on several occasion. We do have spells of this behaviour at home but not quite the same magnitude as he appears to be having at school. I'm worried now he's been diagnosed is it just a matter of time before he's taken out of main stream school? Or is there help to improve this situation. please advise...

  • Hi pal,

    I do feel your pain,...the school asked me to go into the class every afternoon to teach my own son,

    You could not make this shxt up!....and when things did not improve we went backpacking,...then and only then did I see great things happen,

    You should read my post on POWER TO PARENTS arm yourself with the letter of the bloody LAW

    Then you will see people moving,...unfortunately that came too late for my family as tomorrow I intend on giving copies of my tape recordings and other evidence I've gathered over 11 YEARS AND I WILL DEMAND A CRIMINAL INVESTIGATION

    Ill let you how I get on ......

    Good luck and stay strong,

  • hi,

    thanks for the reply, I appreciate your own view of the situation. We are constantly expressing to our son on how to try and deal with his emotions. As the pent up frustration can cause him to be violent and unpredictable. We ask him to take a few minutes quiet time if he has lashed out or what we have done is if he feels what's going is too much, then try playing something else. He is great with small groups and excellent one to one, as the school try to introduce class activities or a change in the school schedule. He has a very hard time trying to adapt and this is where the frustration stems causing him to express himself in tearful tantrums. He was literally at school for 45 minutes the other day... dropped off at 9.00am called at 9:45am by teacher to collect him. Reasons behind it were he is unsettled and can not be talked down, so I collected him and he was absolutely fine came home done some work play etc returned to school next day. Then upon coming home the following day was told he spent the whole of lunch 45 minutes sitting outside head teachers office because he was hitting in the dinner hall, made to eat lunch outside the office also no play time. I was absolutely livid to find how they had dealt with this situation. 

  • Hello, 

    I had the same problem with my son in p1,....I'm not sure this will make sense , but it's my take on how I delt with exactly the same issues,

    You see your kid thinks literally....If he doesn't like someone he thinks it's okay to maybe hit them or say horrible  things, because that's his understanding of how to act if you don't like a person,

    Don't forget the teachers drum into him how he has to always be nice ....this is exactly what happened to my son then it hit me (no pun intended).....I remember walking into the school play ground to my son getting into trouble again for hitting another kid,....I walked over to where they were standing and looked at my son and said....wee man it's okay if you don't like this or that person in fact pal you can hate them if you want to ,.....but please just don't talk or hit them became you don't like them , stay away from people you don't like because if you don't  then you're not going to be a nice person,.....

    I kid you not you could see the weights lifting,...this one piece of understanding really helped him , 

    Kids with asd need everything to be broken down to a basic level of understanding then build on that ,

    He is now 16 yesterday and mainstream highschool hoping and talking about university!

    Don't give up,