Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi, I'm new to this and need some help. My daughter is on the waiting list for high functioning ASD support but I'm really struggling with her behaviour. When out, she is gregarious, social and well mannered but at home. I struggle to maintain any control. She will refuse to do anything I ask, will lash out if I try to start her bed time routine and will argue with everything. My mum visits and she is very nasty to her nan, calls her names, won't look or talk to her.
I've always tried to appeal to her empathetic side but I realise now she doesn't have one. I try to implement a routine but she fights it, and she sees her dad fortnightly and he won't follow it so it goes to pot when she's back. What do I do? It's getting worse by the day.
Hello NAS94846,
I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with your daughter's behaviour at home. The NAS website has an article about 'Different behaviour between school and home' which might be helpful to you: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/education/different-behaviour-between-school-and-home/parents-and-carers
There is also a page on 'Distressed behaviour' on the NAS website: https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/behaviour/distressed-behaviour/all-audiences
Hopefully the forum members will also give you some ideas on what to do.
All the best,
Karin Mod