Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello, my name is Sue.
My daughter is 26 years' old and was diagnosed (privately) with ADHD, Autism and PTSD about 18 months' ago. This followed several years of being prescribed a variety of anti-depressants and several rounds of CBT through the NHS. We are funding her psychiatric treatment and therapy privately. My daughter tells me that she first became aware of the need to "mask" from the age of about 8.and I can recall her saying to me "Mummy, I am different" and my response was "different doesn't mean bad, sweetpea". She presents as a confident and vibrant young woman because of her learned strategies. The amount of energy and stress this means for her has led to a series of "burnouts" which impacts on her ability to work.
My experience, so far, is that there is lots of support and guidance out there for how to support your child, far less on supporting adults. What I crave is a non-judgemental forum where I can share candidly the impact this is having on me and the rest of the family. Is there anyone else out there who has felt any of the following:
I realise that this list is becoming rather long:( Do any of you recognise any part of my emotional roller coaster?
These all seem normal. I didn’t know my son was dyslexic until Uni but it changed everything for everyone. I didn’t know I was autistic!
Awareness and commitment to helping however you can will probably strengthen her trust and respect for you. Channel these emotions into what you can do. There is a saying, “Love covers a multitude of sins.” Love here, is practical, it is a thing in action. And the past hurt and frustrations from the complexity and chaos around us can be easily moved on from by just experiencing being seen and aided. It’s better, really, when those we are the closest to are the ones growing and walking through life with us. Openness is one of the best attributes of “human beings”.