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6 year old swearing

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Any ideas to stop my 6 year old (nearly 7) swearing. Ive tried ignoring it but it’s just getting worse. I really struggle to put consequences into place as it always end in a meltdown. I know some people say they are just words and sometimes I let do just let it go. What do people suggest please? 

  • in reply to Catlover

    Does your 6 year old seek negative attention?

  • I sat on the sofa with my child when she was going through swear words and I out swore her...she was so upset because I turned every swear word I to a silly song....she wanted me to shut up so much, I never heard her swear I'm front of me until she was in her twenties. There is an art to embarrassing your children. It's not for everyone but it was highly comical and worked for me. I wing it through life btw 

  • Referring to it when it happens is making it a ‘thing’. If you get distressed by it, it will continue to be ‘a thing’.

    You are doing the right thing by ignoring it. I know what it feels like!

    It sounds like it might be a stim, In that case, I might suggest once in a while, saying a one off comment like, I’d prefer it if you didn’t say that word around other people.

    Or, can you think of another word to say instead of…..

    Encourage them to burn off excess energy as well, and see if this help calm them a bit….

  • Do you want me to tell you the truth from my personal experience sometimes it's environmental factors if someone is swearing around him he could be picking it up and repeating it which is the reason why most people display these behaviours.

    It's not really something you can control but you could talk to him nicely and say "Please don't speak like this" it's not respectful. You don't have to patronize him or intimidate in your words but could be calm, cool , collected about it?

    I also think it would be an idea every time this happens you could reduce his money, e.g. pocket money

    I also think from my having Autism myself there is sadly social inhibition , I absolutely hate sometimes saying the wrong thing but sometimes I don't think I can help it and maybe I might not even know I am doing it at times.

    Good luck Slight smile

  • Micheal McIntyre did a great sketch on how any word can be used in place of "drunk". It's a good sketch! "I'm absolutely car parked!" "Completely gazebo'd" - something like this. https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=1119454918243178

    And then there's the classic understanding any word can be put after 'complete' or 'absolute' and really have a nice effect. Absolute rug. Complete teapot. 

    Incorporate a few into your daily life while they're in ear shot. It can take a minute to explore if you're not used to it. John Cleese was quite good at it as well. The more interesting and clever, the more desirable they'll find it. You may have to 'stage' it a few times... But see how the sound 'feels' as well. If it just feels fun to swear with. It's always easier to simply give them something more appealing and useful than try and curb what they've been exposed to.