Published on 12, July, 2020
Morning, we have had to take our son out of school, he is in yr 11 and only has a few weeks left but has deteriorated so much over the last few weeks, he just cant cope with the busyness of school topped with the pressures of finishing course work and revising,last tuesday was the final straw for him, he had 3 lessons in which either supply teachers came in, they moved rooms or visitirs where in the room and no one told him of the changes, he only lasted 10 minutes in his German exam onWednesday and had to be taken out he was nearing shut down again,
so after a huge week of stress for him and more phone calls and emails than I can swing a cat at we have a home tutor sorted for the last few weeks and a young man happily getting on with coursework at home.Its taking quite a strong stand to keep him to a time table, he wants to start work at 6am and doesnt see the need for breaks, but we are getting there, and now his down time has structure he is settling nicely,
We had to go to get supplies yesterday and he volentarally got out of the car at the shop, came in and activly looked at the things in the shop, i could have cried i was so happy, what a difference. It just concreted the fact that we have done the right thing.
a few questions if you dont mind. We have paid for him to go on the German exchange trip with school, he still thinks he can go, and the german teacher has been brilliant, we have an itinery that we can work with and he has met the lad he is staying with and his parents know Owen is very nervous, its at the end of April. The Head thinks we are wrong to take him out of school, and i am sure he will try and stp him going, some help with wording to the German depatment would be great im not sure how to put it that son would be ok to go, we know that he may not be up to it but dont want to burn the bridge until we are absolutely sure.
Also, are there any benefits or allowances that I could look into for him, im self employed but my capasity to work will come down over the next few months until he is at college.and he cant go into new/social situations with out supervision,
have a great weekend x
Thanks that's really helpful, I have M.S and work from home, but I know how school holidays and weekends shatter me and I now have 6 months that will be full on, I don't claim DLA myself as I can be absolutely fine at times and don't fit the criteria. But already I've got to cancel a meeting next week that I'm ment to be at as its to soon for me to change his day and send him to my mums for the day and I can feel my energy waining already, this time next week could be a whole new ball game health wise or me. Its going to have a big affect on me. Our school senco is finding our decision to take our son out hard to understand, we were told by the head that if his diagnosis came back as autistic they would be ok, if it came back as aspergers they didn't know what they would do as no one had been on a course!!...that might give you an idea of what we are dealing with, there are only 2 teachers that 'get him' some that are really trying but most that couldn't give a monkeys. We also got old by a teacher that until she had the diagnosis in front of her it was all irrelevant and my son would be treated as 'normal' until told otherwise!!. I'm in contact withe the good guys and the CAHMS team are being brilliant,