Ways to motivate a non verbal 3 year old to want to communicate

Hello

My little boy is going through the diagnosis process at the moment. This post relates mainly to speech therapy, we’ve been told he needs specialised speech and language therapy because he is non verbal and he is not motivated to communicate or even want to learn to. 

Has anyone else been in this position and can give me some tips and ideas on how to motivate him?

Speech and Language therapy won’t even consider us for one to one or group sessions as they say it’s pointless when he doesn’t have the foundations to want to communicate. 

Any help greatly appreciated

Thanks

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  • HI, As a parent I'm not going to tell you not to worry. You are right to be concerned and want to help your son.

    I'm sorry to hear that your efforts are thwarted in getting help. Initially, I would go back to the therapist and ask them how do I

    - to get him verbalising 

    - get him motivated

    Or ask him to recommend someone.

    My gut is I would have fun and wait for the diagnosis as he has an issue on the ASD spectrum. And the practitioners should have programs that will be tailored to him. But that doesn't sound like fun. I would ask to be sure they will have something in place. And also ask what can you do now.

    I know the wait is long. And you can get interim help from social services by asking for a social services child assessment, and careers assessment for you to enable you to help better.

    Finally, as autism is a life long condition, you can help him adjust by perhaps explaining things more than you would than other children. There are training techniques to help him. Most of them are games that you sit and play. Not all are endorsed by the NHS or NICE.

    https://www.google.com/search?q=autism+speech+development+games&rlz=1C5CHFA_enGB827GB827&oq=autism+speech+development+games&aqs=chrome..69i57.12592j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

    Einstein didn't start talking until 4.

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  • HI, As a parent I'm not going to tell you not to worry. You are right to be concerned and want to help your son.

    I'm sorry to hear that your efforts are thwarted in getting help. Initially, I would go back to the therapist and ask them how do I

    - to get him verbalising 

    - get him motivated

    Or ask him to recommend someone.

    My gut is I would have fun and wait for the diagnosis as he has an issue on the ASD spectrum. And the practitioners should have programs that will be tailored to him. But that doesn't sound like fun. I would ask to be sure they will have something in place. And also ask what can you do now.

    I know the wait is long. And you can get interim help from social services by asking for a social services child assessment, and careers assessment for you to enable you to help better.

    Finally, as autism is a life long condition, you can help him adjust by perhaps explaining things more than you would than other children. There are training techniques to help him. Most of them are games that you sit and play. Not all are endorsed by the NHS or NICE.

    https://www.google.com/search?q=autism+speech+development+games&rlz=1C5CHFA_enGB827GB827&oq=autism+speech+development+games&aqs=chrome..69i57.12592j0j7&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

    Einstein didn't start talking until 4.

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