Hi. I am a parent of a 18 year old autistic boy and I need some help. He is developmentally about 13 years old.
He has had access to the Internet and I have found in the search history pages relating to wegies and porn. I have had the discussion with him about sex and pornography but he keeps going back to the wegies videos and the search is starting to go towards girls rather than women.
How do I get him to stop? Where can I get help?
I'm not very tech clever but willing to learn, if someone can point me in the right direction.
I am also looking for maybe a counselling service or help group who can give me some advice on how to deal with allowing him Internet access in a safe and responsible way.
Hoping for some guidance and advice.
I can only agree with DongFeng above, if he is developmentally as a thirteen year old you need parental controls at the very least on his internet.
Keeping his pc in the family room is a great idea. I
I would also try and find out about the wedgies, is he being attacked in this way somewhere?
The problems with filters/controls are:
1) You start blocking the nasty stuff, but then you have to look at the nasty stuff to know it's nasty
2) so you delegate to parental controls on your router, but as fast as they list a new nasty site, others will be created.
3) despite a perfect (impossible, see 2) list of nasty sites, he regains access by getting his web traffic via a proxy. So you block the proxy, only for him to find another...
4) Now you've realised that trying to blacklist the stuff you don't like is futile, so you take the while-listing approach. He can only see sites which are deemed safe.
5) He wants to look at something blocked by default, which is otherwise safe. This happens a lot, and the need to continually bless access to every little site gets tiresome, particularly when each website gets some of its assets from numerous other addresses. A prime example of this is the VAST set of addresses which Google Chrome feels the need to access as a matter of routine.
6) Many parental controls are buggy. Mac OS X is an absolute joke. You tick boxes, only for it to forget your settings. Also see 5).
7) Suddenly, you realise that some of the innocuous-looking sites have hidden doors into pornographic areas. The sites you've been approving are merely the facade. Block everything, then go back to 4) and look in detail at all the sites before approving those you are confident of.
8) Even though you've been blocking his access at layer 2 by filtering his requests from the relevant source MAC address, you belatedly discover that he's bought a £20 WiFi card with some money he's scrimped from loose change lying around the house, or an odd job or two he's done outside the home. The cheap wifi card presents a different MAC address to the router, bypassing the filtering.
9) You remortgage your house to spend on the best filtering available worldwide. Then you find out he's been using a cast off smartphone from someone he knows. He's been getting his web fix in pubs, cafes, supermarkets...