Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi hoping someone has some advice. my son is 4 and my first baby so in all honesty I never really noticed anything unusual about his behaviour. It was brought to my attention when he was about 1 and a half that there may be something's I should mention to his health visitor. I passed on the childminders concerns mainly about his social interactions listening and speech and we got hearing tests and speech therapy etc I wasn't overly concerned as we took on board the advice by the speech therapist and his language developed. Since starting nursery I can see theres a lot of differences in him other children and the nursery/school have been great with helping him.
Hes so intelligent and conforms really well as the nursery say but I am finding it all abit daunting I am stil getting my head around the fact he processes things very differently and it's hard because my partner is like yeah I said that all along and people are now being honest about concerns that they had which Just makes me feel like a crap mum for not recognising behaviours I just seen them as quirks. Today was a bad day and I need some advice on implementing discipline and setting boundaries because at end of day he's still a 4year that won't listen to his mummy and is pushing the boundaries it's getting to a point I dread talking him out because he plays up and I don't really know how is best to deal with it because the traditional methods don't seem to work for very long.
You have nothing to lose by asking to be part of the parents' groups or local support, especially if you know you are on your way to some sort of diagnosis - they can only say no?
I was in complete denial about any difference - naturally, I'd given birth to a genius . My son was picked up at 3 yrs old in nursery but I'd already had his hearing checked at 2 and he was a little late walking. It just took so long for any sensible help to be offered. Not diagnosed until 7 years (primary school behaved outrageously throughout) by then it was too late for EarlyBird courses which were, to my knowledge, then only offered for pre-schoolers (that was about 15 years ago). Most information I got from: reading books I had bought or loaned from my local NAS group and parents of other, older, ASD kids.
Do you know what? My kids actually really fit/suit me and my partner (evolution). We do have our ups and downs but pretty much understand each other. I have all the sensory stuff/anxiety, my partner all the lack of communication and difficulty socialising . We're 'marginal' but that suits us. The biggest issues are when other people want us to fit in with their way of doing things...
What is an early bird course?
I was searching for something like this to get some information from a parents point of view. Matthew is really smart academically he will do fine and he does like to play with other children and is learning how the whole playing with other children thing goes but you can tell he is trying hard and is not picking up on social queues so for example he will say hi to children but if a conversation is started he will only really answer yeah or no. conversations with adults he is a bit better with I suppose because adults can engage and structure conversation a bit better.