Published on 12, July, 2020
3rd time in about 6 months now. This time he really went for it.
First two times hes thrown things at me - albeit 2nd time a large battery.
This time he decided to dig me in the stomach because he didnt agree with me telling him off for something. We went outside and I did grab him and tell him to cut it out (probably not best idea thinking about). But then he started swinging, hit me a few times cut my lip etc.
One thing I didnt hit him back although I felt like it.
Really don't know what to do. I could have phoned the police I guess and got him taken to the cells (this is what CAMHS are telling us to do).
Dont know what to do. For now, we;ve removed his PC, his mobile, his bedroom door.
Hes all sorry but this is not the first time. With a wife whos smaller than him and a 4 year old sister (hes lost his temper with her in the past) I just dont know what to do.
Well we thought things were getting better. BUT its not.
Today found out that hes smashed up his bedroom. Caused probably £100s of damage - all because he got wound up playing a computer game.
Thing is he did it days ago and didnt own up - not sure what he though would happen when we eventually found out.
Its constant with him. He'll try it on, or he'll go behind our back and lie. Constantly.
Hes pushed his mother to edge now - she wants him out. Its difficult to imagine how much trouble one kid can cause for everyone else in the family. Mother has been ill recently- this makes things worse. His little sister aged 5 says she "hates him because hes always shouting".
We've tried and tried and tried to understand him. We've forgiven him and given him, no exageration 20 chances. This time, like the other 20 hes upset and crying but we've seen it all before. He'll be sorry for literally a day then its back to normal.
Just don't know what to do any more. Maybe it is for the best that we have him taken into care to be honest.
Sorry to hear things have got so fraught. He won't want to have the meltdowns, or probably know that they're coming. (Relatively small things can use up an autistic capacity for control, and things can suddenly swing from being over-inhibited to no impulse control at all.)
I realise you mention that there's no social worker involved... if you manage to get one, ideally they would be well-trained in autism. Has he had a Children and Families Act assessment that you know of, or have you had a carer's assessment? (You're legally entitled to the assessment at least.)
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