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Married to a man with Aspergers

NAS37266
over 6 years ago

we’ve been married for 10 years and have 2 children. He’s recently decided that he should have never “inflicted” himself on anyone! His analogy is I’m the granite and he’s dripping water.  I started strong but over time the drip drip drip is eroding me, which does have some truth.  Is there anybody on here who’s in a good long term relationship with some advice as the evidence seems to point to eventual separation - which I really don’t want and I don’t think he does either!

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  • over 6 years ago

    Hi, we have been married /together for 20 years and it has been tough . For us the answer is we do not spend too much time together. We love each other very much and have developed a really strong relationship over the years but we cannot live in each others pockets like so many other couples do . I have had to learn the hard way that I cannot expect random romantic gestures but know that I can ask a very straight forward question 'do you love me ?' And receive a honest answer.  I suppose if you think about times it has worked well in your relationship , you could find the key to what will make it work going forward .

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  • over 6 years ago

    Hi, we have been married /together for 20 years and it has been tough . For us the answer is we do not spend too much time together. We love each other very much and have developed a really strong relationship over the years but we cannot live in each others pockets like so many other couples do . I have had to learn the hard way that I cannot expect random romantic gestures but know that I can ask a very straight forward question 'do you love me ?' And receive a honest answer.  I suppose if you think about times it has worked well in your relationship , you could find the key to what will make it work going forward .

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