Published on 12, July, 2020
Its getting worse. Today hes smashed in the wall by throwing a huge computer chair at it. Hes smashed the wardrobe door off the hinges.
We've tried and tried, but any attempt to even speak to him results in literally going from 0 - 1000 in a second. Hes shouts screams and punches the walls.
Today he went for my wife. Next step is going to be the police. We've been here before a month or so ago - took him to A&E out of desperation - they did nothing. All the useless tossers at CAMHS have done is tell us its bad parenting and to ring the police.
Hes 14 a big lad. As I've said before, hes got OCD and possible Aspergers. We've tried it all but he just does what he wants. Hes told his mother he wishes she were dead quite a few times. Last week he told me he was going to ring social services and tell them I was hitting him so I'd get arrested. I just just see it all heading down the slope into oblivion at the moment and he doesnt see it, doesnt care, or doesnt register.
I can't go near him at the moment but hes just a danger at the moment at times - We're so on our own because there is no-one to help!
Prayers answered. CAMHS called this morning and it looks like they're FINALLY going to so something. Also, hes got psychiatrist appt booked for next week to probably up his meds.
Anyway CAMHS are now going to start CBT for his OCD and also start an aspergers assessment. Apparently that takes some time and involces multiple visits?
Been reading about PDA and also Conduct disorder (which is your son welshlass75?). To be honest, PDA sounds very much like him rather than conduct disorder.
Trouble is there are so many of these things.....
I'm sure we do it all wrong though. Its hard not to hold a grudge when he kicks off but I guess if its a mental thing. As I've said a million times. there is no support for parents at all. You feel helpless.
At what point do you punish a teenager and want point do you say "ok we'll see whats bothering you"? As I've always said, in an ideal world everyone has time to sit down and think etc but in the real world we've got jobs, other children etc. Its tough like yesterday to come home to find wife upset, son had pretty much threatened her and he'd thrown a heavy chair and smashed the wall in. Do we make him pay for the damage or let it go?
paulponty said:Anyway CAMHS are now going to start CBT for his OCD and also start an aspergers assessment.
Might I respectfully suggest that you deliberately labour the point re: possible Aspergers with the folk who are booking/conducting the CBT?
I am no expert, but I gather that CBT may sometimes make things worse if Aspergers is involved. It may perhaps be possible to tailor the CBT for Aspergers, but they can't do that if they don't know that Aspergers is a possibility in your child's case.
Best of luck.
Yes wife has already pushed this. They're starting CBT for OCD and also starting the process re:aspergers.
Based on the psychs recommendations, they're treating him as aspergers now unless proven otherwise.