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hi Tammera

I did raise concerns about my son being in a behaviour unit to my social worker and she raised it to the school and the teacher said he feels this this is the right place for him, but a lady who was at the meeting from local authority said the same about him going to mainstream but teacher said he is for Pe and they said well thats not enough and he should try it in other subjects to , he said ok so wait and see now i surpose but my thought dont really seem to count well thats how I feel what ever I say .

All I have ever wonted is the best for my son and I told the school this

I would be very concerned that my child was in a unit full of children with behaviour problems. Given the right kind of support an autistic child can flourish emotionally (not always academically) and as part of every child matters and inclusion, your child has a right to be included in a regular class and a support structure in place to accomplish this. Autistic children are very black and white in how they view things, if they are only seeing children with behavioural problems, not only can they be munipulated quite easily (which i found out with my daughter with awful consequences), but they see that kind of behaviour as normal and can quite easily behave like that aswell. How do you explain to a child with autism that just because the other children act like that it doesnt mean that you do, because from my own experiance, it took me years to get my daughter to understand that.

Although when it came time for my child to go to secondary school i considered a school with a unit, due to not wanted to subject my daughter to "normal" teenagers and their bullying. I then later found the special school she is at now and glad she didnt have to go to the school with the unit.

hi vic

since my boy had been diagnosed a social worker has been coming home to visit him, which is strange because we ant use to it every 6 weeks and he goes out with barnardos once a month to cinema, 4 hours care he was given.

In school he was put in to a behaviour unit  when he was 3 taken out of his nersery and is still ther now, all the other boys are ther coz of behaviour nothing to do with Autism, so making a positive relation ship has been hard for him to make friends and everyday the teacher has a morn in his book about how slow he has been doing his work

awww sorry to here u are lonly , I hope this forum helps you a lot everyone  is so nice and friendly

thanks for the warm welcome i am so lonly in life because of the problems i have

Hi Rachmama

We saw the paediatrician in April last year, when they said they suspected HFA but did not want to diagnose him then. Some interventions were put in place and he was due to see the paediatrician again Oct/Nov time to see what progress if any had been made. We are still waiting for the follow up appointment, but he has made great improvements so we will have to wait and see what they say. He started school this January and it has been wonderful for him, he is lucky enough to be in a class where his teacher is also the SENCO for the school. 

Whatever happens I can see my son has Autistic tendencies, and then some things that I think are not. I got myself into a real state when i found out but have made my peace with it now and have decided that whatever happens he is a happy little boy and nothing will change that - so we are just rolling with it and finding different ways of coping with things for him. 

My other little boy is the complete opposite and it is so strange to see the differences in them coming out so clearly, when he is only two. 

How are things with you? Is your son's school supportive? Are you now going through loads of red tape, since he has been diagnosed? 

Best wishes

Vic 

hi vicki

thank you for post, i also have 2 other children as well as my son who has HFA they are 3 and 6 years old, I am enjoying the forum and finding lots of information from it to x

is your little one going through assesment yet?

takecare x

hi major

welcome to the forum

yes i agree it is great having a forum to chat on, my little boy has social problems to and no friends and really feeling low everyday.

i the major am new and this is my first post and i am glad the nas got this thing working thank the nas for this as it may hope me to find people like me even though i do something about my socal problems at this moment in time i have no freinds that i talk to in the outside world once again thank the nas for me for this as i think this is one of the best things the nas has done

Hi Rachmama

I am new to this too, just joined last week and have found it a very supprtive and informative place. 

I have a 4.5 year old son who hasn't been diagnosed yet, but is suspected Higher functioning ASD. I also have another son who is 2. 

Welcome. x

thankyou for a warm welcome x

Hi Rachmama,

Welcome to the Community, hope you'll find it helpful. And don't worry about being new, we've only been open to the public for a week, so we're all pretty new right now :)