Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
you know how you have just explained to me about how your emotions take the scenic route whilst the logic kicks in straight away, well thats quite alot like shock!! so it does seem like that may be a little bit of what you experience, but like i said dont take it from me, but it might be worth putting it to CAMHS see what they think? hahaha yeah 'fence sitters' are people who literally sit on the fence where opinions are concerned. So when i imagine it in my head much like you i imagine a person on a back garden fence with two arguing neighbours and the person on the fence is being nice to them both and telling them both what they want to hear when actually that person who is sitting on the fence isnt telling their true opinion. It means to not choose really, some people may also say its 'two faced' but its a matter of opinion and depends on the circumstances it has been used. So now im going to be responsible for that moment when you are in school and the girls are all 'twittering on' hehehe and you think of the fences and crows, its a good way to pass the time though eh?! ;D
Have you tried like textiles shops as they have that like hairy furry stuff that they normally dye bright colours and is used for like dance / clubwear? maybe that might be an option? although to be fair its nowhere near as glossy and smooth and fluffy as the real ones you will most likely have. hmmm im a bit of a blu tak fan to be fair.. i like making it into dices and sausages hehehehe! omg how do you get them stuck do you wrap it around until you have no tak left? hehe a good way to pass a lesson though lol! ;D