Published on 12, July, 2020
Hi all :)
You may have seen a topic i prerviously posted very recently about my boys. Im a mom of 3. I have got my one boy through alot of the process to the point they have said its Autism and ADHD but it hasnt been put on paper as yet as hes yet to see a phsycotherapist and my other son hasnt even got to first screening yet. This in mind, I have so many questions, so please forgive me as no matter what i read it seems so vague. My main question being if this is the case, does my nearly 6 year old son know? is he aware of his autism and ADHD? If not when do they become aware of it? do you tell them or do you not say anything at all ( i wouldnt until it was on paper anyway). Also my one son has alot of hitting, bitting to others and himself, he uses baby talk and grunts, these things sometimes make me wonder is all this behaviour completely his condition OR is some of it just an average nearly 6 year olds behaviour? Im very confused. I know alot of the things he does isnt that of someone his age but say like when hes boundary pushing is that the nearly six year old or is it part of the condition or both? the reason i ask this as im so worried about time out if its something that cant be helped, in fact should i be time outing anyway? Im in a place where im questioning everything he does (not to him like i just think is this his way of saying i cant cope or is it him just being a head strong nearly 6 year old?) , im questioning everything we do like should i time out if his behaviour is unacceptable (but then it might not be his fault and so i dont want him to feel misunderstood). I often wonder if he knows as im scared that he might feel alone or isolated and i really dont want that. I mean he seems happy enough until hes in one of his outbursts but i am a worrier and the thought of them feeling misunderstood for even a second turns my stomach. If theres anyone out there with autism / ADHD or both a point of view and advice from you would be greatly appreciated as i just want to understand and do the best for my boys. My boys havent changed overnight and i would like to think that i know them every inch of the way however if theres anything i can do to understand the way they see the world then that can only benefit them surely? thank you for reading my post, and thank you in advance to anyone that can contribute, it means alot. Best Wishes, Lisa :)
OMG Brad and Callum might go hyper too :D hehehe i dont mind if they go hyper at home, its accpetable in our home, just not by boring people outside hehe! :D Im a bit of a daft person love to laugh and love even more for my kids to laugh too! Oh so you like textures as well then! I like cats but im allegic to them so cant go by them else i have a trip to hospital but your cat sounds cool! Yeah youre right its been a while since your last one in June so dont be too down about it as to be fair thats quite a while so you are clearly doing really really well even if it doesnt feel like it sometimes!! Yeah tell the raving looney art lady on her that should straighten things out hehehe! I may well be wrong but im wondering if the shaking youre experiencing is similar to shock?? like say when you have something real bad happens once your head has had time to process it sometimes you can go into shock which can cause shaking?? maybe thats what you are feeling as that too feels like a release?? Hahaha that list you were given seems a pretty pointless thing to say as i read it it seemed to contrdict itself? People are hard to read even if you havent got ASD. In the society we are in people have to process and work so quickly i think its very difficult sometimes to really tell what people are thinking, especially as you get some that are known as 'fence sitters' and they say one thing to one person and then something else about the same thing to another person. So you are not on your own at all there, ive misjudged so so many people in the past i honestly couldnt count them on my hands!! Your method is far more accurate so i would deffo stick to that! hehehe you have made me giggle again about your english book! good idea though to be fair!!! im not a huge fan of the creepies either ;)